Post # 1
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Sugar bee
So do you believe you are with your soul mate? Do you believe in soul mates?
I’m on the fence about this one. I’m not sure that I feel that there is one and only one person I’m meant to be with for the rest of my life. Now, on the other hand, I also happen to be very mushy and romantic. That being said, I know that my Fiance is the man I want to spend the rest of my life with. He’s my best friend and I cannot imagine my life without him. I can’t say he’s my soul mate though-I just think it’s a combination of luck, us both being in the right place in our lives, both being ready and open for a committed relationship, and of course the help of our crazy scheming families that got us together!
He’s the first man that I’ve ever lived with. I never wanted to before (Little Miss Independent). Usually after about 6 months into a relationship, I get bored. I can’t see ever getting bored with my FI! He makes me laugh daily. We are super silly every day! We got together during an election year, and he really made me think about what I believed in and for once, I actually felt secure in my decision on election day. He also makes me strive to be a better person. The confidence his love gives me makes me feel like I can do anything. And on top of all that, to quote one of our favorite movies, Juno, he "thinks the sun shines out of my ass."
So he’s the bestest guy ever but is he my soul mate? I don’t know. The mushy romantic side of me says maybe but the cynical side of me says no.
What do you girls think? Is your guy your soul mate? Do you believe in soul mates?
Post # 3
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Busy bee
I never really even thought about soul mates until my Fiance brought it up after we were engaged… and then I thought about it and I was like… absolutely. We match on so many levels. We know what each other is thinking, even on mundane stupid things that are pointless. My success makes him feel successful and vice versa. When he is sad, I hurt. When he is happy, I feel joy. I don’t even know how to explain it. We both just feel so complete together. It’s just beyond anything I’ve ever felt. It really feels like we are soul mates. I wish I could put into words how it feels… haha!! I don’t say it to anyone except for him though because it’s such a personal feeling…
Anywho… my point is, I believe in soul mates. 🙂 However, it’s such a personal thing, I believe it has a lot to do with your personality. Maybe he is your soul mate but you guys are just so independant and maybe less mushy that it feels like just a strong connection and you just don’t see the deeper level of your connection? There is no way for anyone to tell but you… but it is a great feeling. 🙂
Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
I don’t know that I believe in Soul Mates, but I believe the Jack Johnson song…"Better Together." My Fiance and I are complete people who can stand alone. But we’re just better together, better people, our lives are enriched because of each other. But if he died tomorrow? (SAD!) It would hurt and I would be sad, but like the movie "PS I Love You" I would move on, and I hope he would do the same.
Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
I don’t believe in soulmates. I think that there are probably (hopefully) more than one person for each of us out there.
I’ve told my husband that if something were to happen to me, that I would want him to be happy again and feel free to re-marry and share his life with someone. He would want the same for me. So, for that reason, I hope we don’t get just one person.
Post # 6
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Helper bee
I 100% believe in soul mates – we always joke that if one of us dies, the other would most likely die of a broken heart soon after. At this point in our lives, we’re selfish and wouldn’t want the other to "move on".
Post # 7
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Sugar bee
I don’t believe in soulmates, because I am too practical. The idea that there is only one person out there that I could have married and I somehow miraculously found him? Just too hard for me to buy. I asked my husband the other day this same question and he doesn’t believe in it either – although he also told me that he couldn’t live without me. So for me, I believe you can find someone to love deeply and completely and feel like is your other half, but I don’t believe in "soul mates" per se…..but I think it is sweet when people do! Kind of like I wish I had the faith to believe that when people die they go to a better place (its a comforting thought), but I just don’t.
Post # 8
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Bumble bee
I don’t believe in soulmates, for some of the same reasons that rosychicklet mentioned. I met my Fiance because I went to a certain grad school and met him in that city. If I never went there, I’m sure I’d be very happy with someone else at some point, and he would too. I think that you can be happy with any number of people. It’s really kind of depressing to think that you only have one soulmate, if that’s the point. What if you never meet?
The difference is, though, the kinds of relationships you’d have with each. With another guy, it would feel different, and you can’t say that one happiness is better than another, so you look until you find something that you want to keep.
Post # 9
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Busy bee
I don’t think I believe in soul mates. I definitely don’t think there’s just one person out there for everyone. I think there are multiple "right people," at that there are both romantic "right people" and friendship "right people."
My Fiance is a completely different kind of person from the kind of person I always imagined myself marrying — but I love him for who he is and know that he is someone with whom I can be for the rest of my life, and be happy. And, as in previous comments, I met him only because I chose to go to the college I did. If I hadn’t come to this city, and especially if I hadn’t gone to that college, I would never have known him, but I would still have found someone.
Post # 10
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Worker bee
It depends on one’s definition of "soul mate". I believe that there’s someone for everyone, and that there can be more than one in a lifetime. I mean, what are the odds of each of you finding the one solitary person you’re meant to be with forever out of all the people on the planet? To me, that’s not really the definition of a soul mate anyway.
To me, a soul mate is someone who you want to grow old with, continue to learn and grow and share and laugh together throughout your lifetime. Someone who is connected to you heart and soul. I’ve heard of ‘karmic partners’, people who have taught you important lessons in life but maybe a soul mate is a step above that level.
(yes I do believe I am with my soul mate)
Post # 11
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Busy bee
This is a tough one. Especially because I think my fiancee would say yes, we are soul mates, and I would say I don’t know. If your definition of soulmate is finding the one person in a whole world of people that I was destined to be with, then I would say, no he’s not that. I’m pretty sure if I hadn’t found him I could find someone else to be happy with. But, maybe I’m wrong, maybe he is the only person in this whole world that I would want to marry, even if I met every guy in the world. Is any of this making sense?
I don’t think any of us will know for a long, long time. I think you have to look at the whole span of your relationship to decide.
Post # 12
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Blushing bee
I’m a little embarrassed to say this but.. yes. I do believe that I’m with my soul mate. I didn’t always feel that way. That is, until I met him.
When we met it was like we had always been together. It was bizarre. We just clicked, and it feels like we’ve been together for 20 lifetimes already.
Post # 13
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Blushing bee
I do think there is one person for everyone, but I don’t believe that everyone always finds theirs. Of course, I feel I have found mine and Fiance his, as I am marrying him. But I tend to be a mushy gushy girly girl, so that could make the difference….lol
Post # 14
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Helper bee
I never believed in soul mates before-until I met David. I’ve been married before and so has he. I thought I was in love before-I don’t know if that is jaded now because I now know the extent of the cheating that he did (the entire time we were together-he never stopped dating) or because he and I weren’t meant to be-but with my FI-both of us feel the same way-that if this is how love is supposed to feel, how it is supposed to be-than neither of us is really sure that we’ve been in love before. I hope you don’t get the wrong idea-I certainly thought I was, as did he-but it didn’t feel like this.
Post # 15
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Busy bee
I don’t know if I believe in soul mates per se. I mean, not the kind you see in a movie anyway. I had no idea that I would grow to fall in love or marry my Fiance until a lot of time had passed and until we had grown together in our relationship. I do believe in a plan from the man upstairs, but not sure if I could call that "soul mates".
Post # 16
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Sugar bee
I, 250% believe in soul mates. I don’t think that every one is lucky enough to meet and find their soul mates though. I think you are always presented with the opportunity (your paths crossed) but for whatever reason you did not get together. And it IS sad to think that there is only one true person out there for you. I think you can certainly be happy with other people. And love other people. But not in the way you will your soul mate.
Sometimes it is about the right time, right place, right frame of mind too.
I definitely believe I have my soul mate and thank god every day that we were fortunate enough to find each other. And I hope the same for everyone out there.