(Closed) Sound familiar?

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
2560 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@LadyS:  Have you and your boyfriend talked abotu marriage? Is marriage something you are wanting in your relationship? Personally for me, I do not want to be a “live in girlfriend” for more than a few months, so my SO and I have had many discussions about the fact that I am moving in with him (been together for 5 years) this summer. He knows what my expectations are. If you are wanting more commitment from him, I would bring up the possibility of you finding a place to live until he’s ready to make that commitment (and gague what he says after that) or if marriage is not something you are looking for in your relationship, then I would not worry about it. Of course our parents are looking out for us, but if you are happy with how things are, and don’t want marriage, then I would respectfully tell them that you have found happiness and this works for you and your SO. If you do want marriage, I would discuss this with him, gauge whether or not he sees moving to this new place as the “next step” before engagement. If he doesn’t, then you will know your next move.

Post # 4
2623 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think first of all it’s your and your Fi choice to make if you ready to get married. Don’t let anyone not even your parents make timelines for your relationship. Getting married is personal choice that should be made between you two. I say if you happy with things ask your parents to lay off and keep the marraige talk to themselves.

Unless you are unhappy. Did he consult you about buying a place? Are you ready to get engaged and married? Have you guys talked about it?

Post # 5
2116 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

If it isn’t a problem for you then it shouldn’t matter. Personally I have a timeline so i would have an issue with it; but if you guys are both happy then who cares!?

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