(Closed) Sour sister relationship — don't want to attend her wedding

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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310 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

You should do what you’re comfortable with doing. Can you deal with this emotionally and not let it bother you too much and put it to the side for the sake of getting along with family, or would you rather minimize contact for your sake? 

Post # 4
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3302 posts
Sugar bee

You don’t want to go, don’t go. Just make sure this is a decision you can live with for the rest of your life. Good luck!

Post # 5
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6746 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

What a tough situation to be in.  On one side, you can not go and show that you’re not going to allow people to treat you like crap, but still be there for them.  On the other hand, you can go to help stop any drama from the future and in the hopes that one day she will grow up, you two will mend your relationship, and you will have been there on one of the most important days of her life. 

Whats more important to you??

Post # 6
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705 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’m on the other end in a similar situation–I am not inviting one of my 3 sisters to my wedding.  She’s a pretty toxic person and I’m not paying to have her “show” ruin this day for me.  I have yet to experience a milestone or birthday with my family without her doing something awful.

I am sending you hugs and support–it’s a hard decision to make for both of us (as both of these decisions will likely end the relationship with the sister) and I think we’re both making the right ones. 

Post # 7
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Newbee

I’m in a related situation, but on the other side.. I don’t want my older brother coming to my wedding, but no one knows wyh and I’m not comfortable saying. My mom is pissed because of it but that is what I want!

Post # 8
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570 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

What did you decide to do?? How did it all go?? It seems like she might have only invited you so tht YOU would look bad if you didn’t show… she’d be the innocent victim (like you said, your Mom was only annoyed before you’d received an invitation- your sister sending you one apparently fixed everything)

Post # 9
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2782 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Well for starters, you should have RSVP’d by now, thats rude that you haven’t. It being your sister, good or bad relationship between you, I think you should go. If you don’t then you are only causing bigger rifts in your family.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@preciousdove:  It sounds like you did the right thing.  Kudos to you, and hugs.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Kudos to you 🙂

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Darn. Didn’t see the previous kudos. Guess you can’t go wrong with two! haha

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