(Closed) Southern states with highest divorce rates, Northeast with lowest. Thoughts?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@PinkPinstripes: Without reading the whole article, I’m guessing it’s because we get married later on average here in the Northeast — so we’ve done a lot of growing up already.

 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

MY guess would be that differences in age at marriage, median income, and level of education would be the biggest contributing factors.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

Well, before I read the article, just the title my guess would have been the likeloyhood of a higher rate of marriage, more traditional values means more marriages before living together and the article indeed suggests that might be a cause.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@blu77:

I can agree with that. I live in the South and I feel like all the girls I went to highschool with got married to their highschool sweethearts when they graduated, and became stay at home moms! I didn’t get married the first time that young, nor to my highschool sweetheart, but I did get divorced. 

Is there a no-fault rule in the Northeast? In Texas you can get divorced in 90 days, no-fault to anyone, and its super cheap and easy (conveyor line at the courthouse). This may be a factor. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I actually think the first woman in the article might be right.  Many many people I know got married not only young but after knowing the person a very short period of time.  A lot of the girls I know who got married young also quit school or pursuing their ultimate goals to get married and immediately start a family.  While that isn’t a bad thing and can work out, I see some of them now having to compromise what they do just to make it.  

I’m not saying age is the reason either, I married my husband at 22 after dating him since I was 17.  From what I’ve seen on here and just in general though, women in the South are much more likely to marry young, at least in my area they were.  This is to the point where I’ve been told I’ll be an “old mother” if I don’t conceive a baby soon (I’m 23).  My mother was from Michigan and had her oldest (my brother) when she was 30 and that was considered completely fine. 

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

People frown upon pre marital sex in the Bible belt, so they tend to get married young and right out of high school. Up here, people get married later, usually have at least one college degree, and date a lot more than people in the South.

Interesting article, thanks for sharing!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m from the South and agree with what everyone else has said. A lot of girls in the South get married out of highschool and divorced a few years later, at least the girls that I know have done that. A majority of them became young moms shortly after which puts a strain on the marriage. I think most people in the South are more family oriented and are under pressure to start families at an early age. I think people in the North are more career minded.

 Also, if you get pregnant out of wedlock, marriage is basically forced upon the couple, esp. if they come from a religious family. I know a girl that got pregnant twice out of wedlock and married both guys and got divorced months later…

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@misskoala: I know multiple people who have gotten pregnant and all of a sudden are engaged when they’ve only known each other for a very VERY short period of time.  I think that definitely is a reason for divorce because I know many of them do divorce not too far into the future from the baby being born. 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

It’s an interesting article. But being from the South, I’m not going to let it influence my marriage. There is no doubt that people in general are divorcing more than ever. And it’s sad that I live in a region where it’s seemingly higher. That doesn’t mean it’s doomsday for my Darling Husband and I. I agree with a lot of things in the article though, I really do. One of the things that most couples fight about (and divorce over) is financial issues. So, when you marry young, possibly having a child at a young age, and possibly not having a higher education… you are more likely to make less money. Surprisingly, the Southern states have more people living in poverty than other regions. It makes sense then, from looking at this information, that a lot of people would be getting divorces in Southern regions. Having one or two of those factors makes it hard, but having a handful makes it even worse, and is just screaming for marital issues! I hope we as a nation learn how to deal with marital issues in a healthy way, and not run to divorce so quickly.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

Hmmmm… I bet it’s the weather ;P.

Who wants to be all cuddly and romantic when it’s 95 and 90% humidity?

And who wants to be alone when it’s -10 and 2 feet of snow outside? and what else are you supposed to do when you can’t go outside ๐Ÿ˜‰

 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

I have a hard time taking any statistics seriously, since they’re always contradicting them later on down the line.  So, even though I am a PROUD southerner, I do not believe this data will affect my marriage.

People here in the south tend to hold fast to religion.  So, there is that belief that you should marry the person you have sex with. Family is important here.  Yes, some people consider having a family as being a life path choice.  Right out of high school, so many girls I knew got married and immediately pregnant.  Now they’re all tied down as mothers and wives (or ex-wives).  Yes, I would imagine the not going to college and getting tied down so young aspect of it would contribute to a higher divorce rate in this region.

However, I wouldn’t just generalize that southerners, as a whole, do not prioritize education (or do not get a proper education).  I get so sick of that generalization.  I am a high school graduate and college student.  My state hosues some of the best universities in the nation.  I feel that my education is the most important thing in my life.  All of my relatives from New York are high school dropouts and have babies, pretty much living useless lives…

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@blu77: I agree with this.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Interesting, was wondering about this issue just the other day. I would agree that age of marriage, level of education, and mean household income have a lot to do with the disparaging numbers. 

One interesting thing to point out, though, is that New York State oddly has one of the most antiquated marriage laws in the country relating to divorce – making it extremely time consuming, costly, and emotionally nasty to get divorced in NY – currently trying to be changed (last I read). I’ve heard that many people here remain married (even though no longer together) until they have a good enough reason to get divorced (probably a new, serious partner). I doubt this has anything to do with upsetting the numbers from this study, but it’s interesting that someone pointed out TX’s law is so easy, and NY’s is sooo difficult.

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