- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
and I feel like a total weight has been lifted off our shoulders.
I wrote a post:http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/may-have-to-change-the-date-my-mom-is-upsetadvice talking about how our original date of July 21st 2012 isn’t gonna be financially possible because of changes with work and my parents cannot help now either.
I gave it thought and I didn’t want our entire engagement to be stressed out, which can lead to tension. I didn’t want our (original) wedding date to be clouded with that. We don’t want to begin our married life paying off a loan/ credit cards either…
When I talked to my mom (who was initially upset) I explained that it’s not about what people say/ think. I said that I have to make decisions for Us not just ME (FI and I need to make decisions together), and we have to be responsible with our finances, not damage our relationship with tension, and enjoy our engagement. (yes it was hard standing up to my mom, but she understood and was supportive).
So… we moved it to our “anniversary” on July 13, 2013! Almost an entire year, but “13” has sentiment to us..he proposed to me on our 13 month anniversay on Friday January 13th (which means every “13” of each month, we toast and celebrate), so this is perfect. We have time to plan and enjoy our engagement. We will be able to do what we really want and we are super excited.
All of our family and friends from Texas now have time to make arrangements for the cross-country wedding (when originally nobody was able to go), and are relieved, plus Future Brother-In-Law will be home from Afganistan by then.
We called our guests and they were happy for us, and we will send out new “change the dates” soon…. I just have to figure out a cute way to word the Change the Date.