(Closed) So..what is really going on?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I don’t think she’s upset.  She’s probably basking in the glow of being a newlywed.  I’m sure she’s still busy with everything, even after the wedding.  Why don’t you try talking to her about how you feel to make sure everything is ok?

Post # 4
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542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

You said you don’t really know her well – why would she necessarily comment on your graduation photos? Also, if you need your bridesmaids to get dresses, you should tell them that.

She may be upset, but nothing you mentioned in your post leads up to that. I would just assume she is busy with her life (especially since you guys aren’t close) and tell the bridesmaids what they need to do.  

Post # 6
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1088 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think she might be waiting for a comment too – if you haven’t told her congratulations and asked her about her wedding. Have you done that?

I know a lot of people did not congratulate me on graduating, it seems like some people are just jealous or don’t care about graduations honestly. I would give her the benefit of the doubt and try to make small talk with her, maybe about her wedding or what you need her to do for yours, etc.

Post # 7
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963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Did you comment about her wedding?

Post # 8
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470 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think she’s still unwinding after her wedding and just didn’t think about it when she was on Facebook.  At least she asked you how you were feeling.  I think you are overreacting but I can understand it…I feel like I overreact to perceived Facebook slights all the time…damn internet!

Post # 9
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279 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Maybe she is waiting for you to tel her what you need? I would just be upfront with her. That may be what she is waiting for.

Post # 10
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2114 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I think she might be bitter and maybe she thinks you didnt make her a priority so she is going to do the same for you – not saying it is right , but that might be the case .. if it is .. rely on your other bridesmaids and your Maid/Matron of Honor – give her space , she is a newlywed and i am sure is still in her own world of newlywed-ness 🙂 

Post # 11
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Helper bee

I think it is normal for the bride to tell the bridesmaids what they need to do and when.. like send out an email saying you picked the dresses and here’s where to get it.. something like that. The bridesmaid doesn’t usually have to go chasing after the bride for that! So maybe she just thinks it isn’t time yet because you’ve said nothing.

Post # 12
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6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

It seems there’s some things going on in your life… however… she JUST got married!! how amazing a time she must have had.  Did you fb her to ask for pics or comment on them or send some little note?  Maybe you get what you give? 

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

it could be that because she doesnt know you well, she is thinking the same way you are right now.  just give her a phone call, tell her how nice her weddin was and how sad you were that you couldnt make it due to that upcoming surgery.    then move on to your wedding asking her if she still want to be part, you knowing that she might be “busy” as a newly wed.  problem solved!

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