(Closed) Spa Day Bill?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
731 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@LoveLittleDove: You definitely don’t have to pay for everyone. I think everyone will expect to pitch in for their own as well as for a portion of hers.

Post # 4
2299 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

hm – i used the manage a spa 🙂 here are my tips:

– see if there are special deals. sometimes there are ‘day of the week’ ones – manicure monday etc.

– also – check out packages! it sounds counterintuitive but if you’re going to end up doing 2 or 3 services (mani, pedi, facial etc) then often there is a package with that combo for a bit less. if you don’t see one that’s perfect, ask to substitute a service you do want for one you don’t (change the massage to facial etc.) most places are fairly flexible

– tell them you’re bringing guests! many spas have ‘group rates’ which are less. for instance, the spa i managed had group rates where for 5 or more people you could rent a treatment room and tech per person for 1 hour and pick any 1 hour service for 50 dollars. so if you picked a pedi, you saved 10 dollars, but if you picked a massage you saved 40! call around and ask about group rates – and ask if the group rates are always the same, some times you get a better rate in off times

– try to find a spa with free extras. if you book in for a mani pedi at a spa that offers a pool, steam room, relaxation lounge etc for free, you can go early and start your spa time with those free treatments. so you get 3 or 4 hours of spa time when you’re only paying for a mani pedi 🙂

– bring other extras yourself. ask if you can bring a bottle of wine – then you can choose one within your budget, bring a fruit tray/ cupcakes from the bakery instead of ordering expensive spa meals. 

– groupons! check lifebooker.com and groupon for your area – always call ahead before buying the voucher to ensure that the spa can accomodate you all at once. 

– check to see if independent estheticians in your area to house visits – many do this to supplement their income and at rates that are lower than a spa charges since they get to keep 100% of the treatment cost. then you could invite everyone to come in pjs and a robe, get drinks etc and have an at home spa night!

oh my LORD i wrote you a novel – apologies! 

Post # 6
2299 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@LoveLittleDove:  oh! and definitely ask about express services. our spa had an express mani, pedi, facial etc that were still great treatments but about 40% less cost. so you could do a pedicure and express mani and save that way

Post # 8
945 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Check out groupon or living social for deals. I’m doing a spa day for my MOH’s the day before the wedding, and for the same price we’re getting not only mani/pedis but a massage too. And I agree, you’re definitely not expected to pay for everyone. I would try and meet with her sisters and mother to plan, and casually let it be known your on a tight budget but will happily split the cost for hers with them.

Post # 9
9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Etiquette Snob here…

First thing you have to do, is call up everyone and get their feedback as to the idea the Bride has floated.  (Just because it is what she’d like, doesn’t naturally mean it has to happen… prticularly so if it isn’t affordable for the people in the mix / the Guests.  It is like when a kid makes their List for Santa… nice to have, but no guarantees… so don’t feel you have to make ALL her wishes come true) 

Make notes so you can refer to it later.  Try to get an idea of what everyone is willing to chip in… explaining to each person that their costs will be THEIR responsibility… not necessarily that the whole bill will be split up equally (this is so that you can make the person with the least amount of available cash as welcome as the person who had oodles).

So for example…

Sister Sue says she’d be willing to pay for her own lunch and whatever Spa Service she chooses (her personal max is $ 70 for the Spa, and $ 30 for lunch) and a 1/5 of the cost of the amount for the Bride (Spa & Lunch… to the max of another $ 50*).  Anotherwords, this gal has an overall budget of $ 150

So in this equation, the Bride’s Costs cannot exceed $ 250 for the day*.  And you are looking at Spa Services for $ 70 and a not too expensive lunch at $ 30 per person (taxes & tip in)

* $ 50 x 5 = $ 250.  If lunch is $ 30 per person… then you might want to ear-mark a bit more for lunch (just incase).  So $ 50 for the Bride’s Lunch, maybe $ 50 for fun stuff for the Bride (tiara / BRIDE Robe)… so that leaves $ 150 for the Bride’s Spa Expenses.

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In this way… you’ll get an idea of what everyone can afford, and what is workable for each and the overall group (ie if Sister Sue is the person with the smallest budget, then that is the one you have to plan to… even if everyone else has $ 200 or more dollars for the day)

Hope this helps,


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