Post # 1
I never planned on getting a spacer, but I have noticed over the past month that my wedding band and e-ring are rubbing up against each other and causing a lot of scratches to the inside of each ring :/ bummer. Supposedly it can also cause the stones to fall out over time. Double bummer.
So I started looking for thin spacers and I found a plain 1mm 10k white gold spacer on Berricle (my rings are 2mm 14k white gold). It came today and I am still trying to get used to the look. Do you think it looks horrible, or do you think it’s doable and worth it to prevent damage?
Now with the spacer:
please excuse the bad cell phone pics!
Post # 3
Why not have them soldered so they don’t rub?
Post # 4
@MsSkater: I like the spacer a lot with your set! Usually I dnt like them but for you it works well
Post # 5
@Lovewinz: i work in a job where I can’t wear my engagement ring all the time 🙁 so I don’t want to have them soldered together and lose the ability to wear just my band.
Post # 6
I’m not gonna lie, I don’t really like it. Sorry! If you think that it is indeed causing damage I would have them soldered together. And then if you are concerned about wanting to wear your wedding band alone sometimes, I would get a separate band that can be worn alone.
Post # 7
I love the way the spacer makes the each ring pop and says, “look at me!” Without over powering the whole set.
Post # 8
@MsSkater: won’t the 10k rubbing against your 14k rings damage them as well? :-/
Post # 9
Personally I like it better without the spacer, but I don’t think it looks bad. I just prefer it without. I really don’t want my rings soldered – both because I like the look of the rings being separate and because I want to be able to wear my band alone. Are the scratches a huge deal? I guess it depends how noticeable they are. They should come off everytime you have your rings re-dipped anyway, right?
Post # 10
Spacers are crucial, IMO, with many prong-set bands to prevent damage to the ER. I like the look, and it is well worth it to prevent damage and preserve your ability to wear your wedding band separately.
Post # 11
Silly question, but what about the spacer causes less damage than the other ring? Softer materials?
Post # 12
@wrkbrk: The jeweler said it was the diamonds that were scratching the inside of the bands, so the 10k gold shouldn’t be a problem.
@adoc86: That’s the way I feel about how it looks. Not terrible, but I like the way it looks better without the spacer. My concern isn’t really about the scratches because those will come out when I re-dip. I am more concerned about the diamonds falling out eventually 🙁 That would be a pain in the butt to keep fixing. Apparently the rubbing wears down the tiny prongs.
Post # 13
As @wrkbrk: said, the 10k gold would cause damage, I think. When we were buying our wedding bands, a bunch of jewellers told us that we need to get a softer gold for the wedding band so it doesn’t damage my engagement ring, and that the higher the number, the softer the gold. My e-ring is 14k so we went with 18k for my wedding band.
Post # 14
@BlondeMissMolly: +1 that is the best solution IMO
why not buy a pretty band that is on the cheaper side to wear to work? Then god forbid if anything should happen to it you won’t have to worry! I don’t think the spacer looks terrible, but I think it looks better with just your Engagement Ring and w-band
Post # 15
@chillinchillin: Totally not a silly question lol. I knew none of this before we got my wedding band and the jeweler talked to us about it (I didn’t listen initially… of course). Apparently the diamonds and the prongs are what scratch each other. So if it’s a plain band that it is rubbing up against, it won’t cause as much damage.
Post # 16
not a fan. i think if this were my situation, i’d get the rings soldered and then get a new band to wear to work. idk if that’s an option for you or not