(Closed) Spark back into the relationship

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My Fiance and I have date night every Friday.  So no matter how busy we are (and we’re busy–he’s a medical student and I’m getting my masters and teaching part time), we always have Friday evening to look forward to.  When we’re broke, we go for cheaper dinners, when we have some money to spare, we go to nicer restaurants.  Sometimes, we even just cook dinner together.  Having that special night set aside has kept our spark going after 5 years!

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

There are things you can do together that don’t cost money, or not a lot.  Getting outdoors and being active together is one of the best things to keep sparks alive.  You can visit parks, take hikes, ride bicycles, go on picnics, etc., for minimal money.  Museums have a lot of free exhibits.  Local parks and recreation departments usually have free events like festivals, outdoor concerts, etc.  Depends on what you’re both into, but coming up with free and inexpensive entertainment ideas shouldn’t be too difficult. 

Try to not let your money concerns come between you.  After all, the wedding is worth saving for!  All the sacrificing will help your special day to be the most wonderful day it can possibly be, you’ll both be glad you made the effort.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Putting spark back in the relationship on a ‘budget’ can be very doable!!  Such things include:

*Cooking dinner together/trying new recipes!

*Putting on music and having a dance party, which is one of my faves!

*Board games…which may sound ‘nerdy’, but my SO and I love a good game of Scrabble.  We are competitive 🙂

*Reading a book out loud.  This may sound weird to some, but I am reading the ’50 Shades of Gray’ triology, ie, smut, and reading it out loud to him is very much a turn on for us both!

*We do ‘projects’ together when we do not want to spend money – painting, re-arranging, etc.

*Going on long walks with the dog, or on our own, or riding our bikes in the park!

For intimacy purposes, if you two are, in fact intimiate:

*Having ‘naked’ movie nights.

*Bubble baths together

*A few new pieces of lingerie (cheaply) can go a long way!

I know these all seem obvious, or not that ‘different’, but it can break the cycle of just watching TV together, and actually I have to say, we have learned to have a lot of fun just staying ‘in’ rather than spending money ‘out’, and we are not necessarily on a tight budget right now!!  Hope this helps!

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

We are currently in a tight money situation as well, so I have a few things to add. We have dogs, so we go for walks, or sometimes will drive to the local state park and either ride bikes or walk the dogs. We like to cook on the grill, and do projects around the house/yard. Rent a redbox movie, make some yummy food, and cuddle up together to enjoy. Take a mid day nakie nap – if you can actually fall asleep 😉

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would say cook together or watch a movie (make sure this involves LOTS of snuggling and some kisses hehe).

My Fiance and I enjoy archery and fishing so we do a lot of that. We also have been getting in the habit of talking a walk together every night. Not only will that help me look great for the big day, but it also gives us time to talk and enjoy the fresh air.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We went to Canadian Tire and bought a bunch of sporting equipment like a football, baseball gloves and ball, basketball, and tennis balls (already had racquets). We also already had squash racquets. Now whenever it’s a sunny day or we have half an hour to kill, we go out into the yard or to the park down the street and just play one of the sports with eachother. It’s fun to be outside, and to be getting exercise!

 

 

Post # 9
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Busy bee

We are super frugal and are always looking for free ways to bond. Walks always end up being awesome times to share our deepest feelings- I’m sure there’s a nice park, bridge or lake somewhere to can walk around. Cooking a nice dinner and dessert, lighting candles and renting a romantic comedy, or even washing the car together help us keep the spark alive. Maybe going skating, rollerblading, for a bike ride, a swim? How about a nice hike? You can golf for cheap in the off season, or maybe buy a video game that you can play together. Maybe you can drive to a nearby town and just window shop and visit landmarks?

We recently up and moved to a small town, and it has driven us even closer and changed things up in a great way. We have gone out for dinner… once in the last two years? So it is possible to have a really low entertainment budget… and 3.5 years into the relationship we’re still ridiculously happy. I hope this thread gives you some good ideas!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Have a picnic in the living room! Totally a stolen idea that has worked for us. Basically, turn off EVERYTHING. Light some candles, put on some music, and make a picnic feast. Lay down a blanket in the living room and spend the night there just talking.

We also go on walks together, take train trips (hop on, get off at a city, spend the day walking around), go to free city festivals, play sports, etc.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Oh! And geocaching. I used to do this with an ex and it was a great, cheap activity that usually took all day.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m all about a nap… but prefer clothes on!

We liked to cook togeher as PP mentioned. Especially trying out a new dessert together can be fun. There are times when we play a song and slow dance in the kitchen, corny but sweet.

One other thing not yet mentioned is you each having your own hobbies. If FH and I haven’t seen each other longer than normal, you become more interested in their day/week. Go grab dinner with friends and let him play on the play station with his friends. Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

We’re also in “saving mode” and I absolutely agree with the things everyone has already listed. In addition, I’m not sure where you live but check online for events in your city. In my area, there’s free music or movies in the park at least once a week during the summer; you can also check out minor-league sporting events in your area. And definitely sign up for Groupon and/or Living Social if that’s an option where you are–you can get some really great deals that way.

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I agree with what everyone else has said… Set a day for you guys at least once a week/weekend and just spend time together. Even if it is fast food/just watching a movie and snuggling/making dinner at home with candlelight to make it romantic/have a “slumber party” in the living room instead of your bed. That has kept our spark going for 8 years now 🙂 And we are in major saving mode to buy a house. So we have little money to be frivolous with right now. And also, absence does make the heart grow fonder. I only see my husband at nights and on weekends. Not all day, so I miss him very much all day. 

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

@ohmybears48:  geocaching is something I REALLY want to do! I have to add that to my list, thanks for the reminder

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