- 7 years ago
My boyfriend and I are have agreed in casual conversation that we think it would nice to get married after he finishes grad school (12-18 months from now). Since his graduation date is still unknown, it’s not obvious whether we should get engaged now, or if we can afford to wait awhile. He has mentioned before that he doesn’t want an engagement that lasts longer than a year, but his reasoning was that once we’re ready, he’s going to want to get married as soon as possible. On the other hand, I think that if we know we want to get married, we should just get engaged now so that we can start planning with our families (we are in an LDR, and only see each other and our families during school vacations).Besides, I think it would be easier to get through the remainder of our LDR if we are actively planning for our future together.
I know he wants to get married, but I have no idea if he has a plan for how or when to propose. I am dying to tell him that I want to get engaged this summer when we see each other for the holidays, but I don’t know how to say it without sucking all of the romance out of things. If it doesn’t happen this summer, it might not happen until Christmas because we see each other so rarely. Should I keep my mouth shut and just wait patiently? Or is there an appropriate way to express my wishes without dampening the mood?