(Closed) Speak now, or forever hold your peace…

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
9097 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

My dad joked that he was going to say something when my husband and I got married. Our JoP didn’t give them the option. I was kind of looking forward to it — my dad is a goofball.

Post # 6
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’ve never seen it.  But here, even if someone does it as a joke, the ceremony is stopped, and can’t happen for (I think) a 72 hour waiting period, so… not very funny.


Post # 7
7556 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

@bmo88:  OMG! Crazy! 

Post # 8
331 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’ve never been to a wedding where that line was even said.



Post # 9
1346 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I expected it to be said at our wedding (ceremony was at an anglican church) but instead they do something called the reading of the bans a few weeks before the wedding, which is when it is said but its not said in the ceremony.

Post # 10
496 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

 My grandma did this at my cousin’s wedding! She had Alzheimer’s and did it as a joke (I think). She yelled: “I object!” and then started giggling manically. They just kind of laughed and carried on. I’m kind of sad she isn’t around to do that at my wedding! 

Post # 11
5 posts
  • Wedding: May 2014

The way things are going now, I wouldn’t be SUPER surprised if it happened at my wedding from either someone in my family or his…more likely his though.  I’m Christian, he’s Jewish, and while my parents have come around, his mom has yet to acknowledge our engagement to me.  I’m sure we’ll come to an understanding with all immediate family members before the wedding, but will an great aunt come out of the woodwork and surprise us with a vehement objection?  It’s possible…

Post # 12
2787 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@OvercomingObstacles:  Oh yuck. I’m sorry that it wouldn’t be a surprise if it happened. That being said, if it’s any comfort, unless there’s a legitimate LEGAL objection, the wedding would just go one once the unpleasantness subsides. You could always ask your officiant to leave out that line. Many of them seem to do so already since it’s basically useless at this point what with taking care of the legal stuff when you get your license.

Post # 13
3051 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

@SapphireSun:  You can’t get married for 3 days if someone objects??? OMG

@bmo88:  that is awful, but seriously, who invited the shit starting ex gf?

Post # 14
6256 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

Honestly, this is why I am not posting my venue on FB.

Post # 15
4655 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

You don’t have to have that line in at all, so I can’t imagine it actually holds any water in most cases. We’re self-uniting so clearly that bit is getting left out 😛

Post # 16
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

@soontobemrsm11:  Yeah, they legally have to ask if anyone knows of any reason why these people shouldn’t be married (ie, one’s already married, they’re too closely related… not like, “I love her”) but if someone says they object there’s a definite waiting period while the point is investigated.  And even if they’re like, “haha, just kidding”, you can’t just pick up and go again that day.  But they only have to do it in front of you and two witnesses, so some people will do that part sometime before the ceremony (like at the rehearsal) if they think someone might actually do it.

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