(Closed) Speak up or let it go? Bridesmaids do not have their dresses yet

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 16
441 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Would you be able to pick up the dresses and just drop them off? Then you can talk with each of your friends in person. You could always just say it’s for your own peice of mind or that you kept getting reminders from the store to pick them up and it got annoying.

Otherwise I don’t think there’s much else you can do. I would try not to worry — bridesmaids tend to know there are going to be a ton of pictures of them, so they generally want to look nice.

Post # 17
8945 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

I would be inclined to go and pick up the dresses and drop them off to the bridesmaids (not that you should have to!) and then it’s up to them if they fit or not. Bring some pins and just go with the flow. I know a BRIDE whos dress didn’t come in until 48 hours before the wedding, things have a way of working out. And like a PP said, if 3 bridesmaids look shit, they can stand behind the nicely dressed bridesmaids on the day. I don’t get why they would run the risk of standing around in a badly fitted dress, but that’s just me. Good luck with it all!

Post # 18
1846 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I was one of nine bridesmaids in a wedding last year, and was the only one to order my dress on time.  By the time they got around to it, the style of dress had been discontinued!

Anyway, we picked another dress, the store let me change it for free, and I even got a little bit of money back.  But they also procrastinated when it came time to pick up the dresses and have them altered.  We got our nails done a couple days before the wedding and one of them said she still didn’t have it altered yet!  She ended up having to basically beg a seamstress to do it for a rush charge.  The bride was frustrated and basically gave up, but the bridesmaid showed up with an altered dress… I guess if they have to pay crazy amounts that’s their choice!  

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Post # 19
50 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

something you could say:

“hi girls! I am starting to feel a little last-minute stress, and I would love to know that at least my gorgeous bridesmaids are ready to go! Could anyone who still needs to get their dress let me know when they might be able to pick it up? We are getting down to the wire for alterations.”

it will be a nice reminder that the wedding day is creeping up, and will also give them the opprunity to feel helpful by getting this out of the way 🙂 good luck!!

Post # 21
51 posts
Worker bee

octoberbride151:  I have 10 girls- i feel the stress. But- here is what Iw ould do. Just write a nice group text message to the whole group- even those that did pick them up. And email the same exact message to everyone as well – this way no excuses. Just be something like – hey guys, so its 3 weeks to the big day, im so excited. I know some of you havent picked up your dresses yet, but please do so before the end of this week at the latest as I spoke to several of the other girls and some seamstreses and everyone said that 2 weeks is really the absolute least amount of time they would need to alter a dress. I am so excited to see all of you on my big day and I really appreciate your support. ” and then if they still dont- they just dont care! period. They dont need to be bridesmaids. Dont stress and just look at it as a learning experience- you now know what kind of people you are dealing with. If they dont pick up within next week or so – just tell them that although you were looking forward to seeing them as part of your bridal party, you feel that their complete disregard for you as the bride and for their dresses shows they are not interested and you would still love to see them as guests at the wedding.

Post # 22
6 posts
  • Wedding: October 2015

So sorry you are going through this! Bridesmaids shouldn’t cause more stress on you! I understand what you are going through! My maid of honor has been wonderful and supportive, but my two bridesmaids have not been there for me all at. They have no interest in the wedding. They didn’t attend the bachelorette party. I had to call and text them several times to pick up their dress. I paid for their dresses. They just had to pay for the alterations. One of them complained how expensive alterations are and asked if I knew of a cheaper place. 

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