(Closed) Speaking of awkward ring conversations

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
1161 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Maybe you could just tell them you have a deathly allergy to diamonds…that will puzzle them enough to get them to hush.


But seriously, I don’t have a big diamond…I’m from Oklahoma and Fiance is from Texas where it seems mean are judged by the size of their woman’s ering, so when we go to Texas we get this.  I just say “this is the ring I picked out”  and leave it at that.  I’ll admit though that I’ve considered buying a big CZ ring just to wear to trips there 🙂

Post # 4
5889 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

show us your ring so we can properly ooo and ahhh for you!

Post # 5
606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think its hard because people DO have certain expectations about traditions and all that…and they DO expect to see a diamond on your hand.  But I think all you need to say is “that’s not us” or “that’s not what we wanted” or “isn’t this so me” and people should shut up and ooh and ahh with you.

In the end, you don’t NEED their approval.  You know why you have what you have, it makes you happy, and soon those awkward moments will end.

And I second the request to see the ring!

Post # 7
2588 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I love those! I got the puzzled looks and snide remarks when we decided on a rhodolite garnet and white gold ring. “Why don’t you want a diamond?” “Why is it silver?” “You know, it’s not official unless you have a diamond.” Ugh.

Your rings are meaningful and classy–don’t let people’s ig’nunce bring you down.

Post # 8
3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Oh i love your rings. I think they are very unique. What does it say on the ring? (if you dont mind my asking??)

I think the sterotype is that every girl ends up with a diamond ring and the shock is not as much as that its “just” a band, but that its not a diamond (does that make sense? *laugh*) Lots of girls with coloured stones have the same reaction…when 1 girl out of 100,000 women have a different ring it will be a little “shock” when you see it for the first time! Maybe they dont mean to be rude ??? (Im trying to give the benefit of the doubt here….*laugh*)

Post # 9
1184 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

your ring is beautifully delicate and from what you’ve said, perfect for you. as i’m sure some old adage says, it doesn’t matter that other people think, it only matters what you think. but practically, we obviously all get our feelings hurt by what other people think. so if you want others to think as positively as you do about your ring, maybe you need to really convey your excitement about the ring. someone above posted a suggestion to say “isn’t this ring so me!” when you show people and i think that’s a great way to show them how much you love it. explaining the symbolism behind the engraving would also be a good idea (are you the one that has a latin inscription on your ring? can’t remember if that was you or someone else that posted that).

and if all else fails, i think that “i’m allergic to diamonds” joke is a great line to keep in your back pocket 🙂

Post # 10
2077 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I love your rings.  They’re simple, elegant, and exactly what you and your Fiance wanted!  I’m not really they demographic you wanted to answer your question (sorry!), but I wanted to chime in to say that your non-stone e-ring is gorgeous.  🙂  And, congratulations on your engagement!

Post # 12
636 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Most of the girls in my circle have (or I would assume that they will want) diamond engagement rings.  While I would never intentionally react to someone’s ring in a rude way, I might be surprised enough that I would say something silly, or let it show on my face, if someone who I thought/expected to have a diamond ring didn’t.  I think if when you show your ring you immediately say something like, ‘It’s different, but it is exactly what I wanted,’ or ‘This is what I’ve always wanted for an engagement ring!’  You will let them know that you are happy with your ring and give them a minute to think before they react.

Post # 13
499 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Your rings are gorgeous and you shouldn’t ever feel bad about them.

I will tell you that if I were your high school acquaintance or whatever, I might have squealed and then made a weird face when you showed me. Merely because I show every stinking emotion I even feel a faint flicker of right acroos my facec. Yes, I make faces like a muppet. It’s true. However, I would recover and say something honest and nice because I do in fact have manners.

Some of us have never seen a non-diamond engagement ring in the wild. I know they exist because of places like this. And I firmly believe that since you are going to wear this ring for the rest of your life, it needs to be what you want. That is the only requirement. And I’ve always belived that. But having never been face to face with an engagement ring without a diamond, I admit I’d probably make a flicker of a strange face before my fine up bringing kicked back in.

Edited to actually answer your question – If that did all happen, I’d prefer you to pretend I didn’t make a muppet face at you. And to take my honest compliment at face value, just as I meant it.

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