(Closed) Speaking of "no kids allowed"….

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Post # 32
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

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@BostonBaby:  Yes, an 18 month old can behave well in loud, noisy settings.  It’s called “being prepared.”  You bring books or coloring books for the child to play with and occupy themselves.  You talk to them and interact with them, not just let them sit, bored.

Post # 34
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Does anyone honestly think their kid is the problem? Every parent I’ve ever encountered (with the exception of those with special needs children) swears up and down that their kids are well behaved and would never do this or that. Considering I’ve personally expereinced “this” and “that” from said children, I call bullshit.

I’m not saying that all children are devil spawn because I do know a few kids who are genuinely good in almost all situations but the vast majority have a tipping point that does not make them appealing to those who didn’t create them.

Post # 35
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

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@rubyred605:  Maybe “you” do, but the vast majority do not. It’s a shame that the few must suffer for the sins of the many, but as 
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@MissFireFlower said, they can’t just post a sign that says “Good Parents Only.” Obviously you know how to handle the kids, and I agree that attentive parents make for better-behaved children. But the kids I see are bored, ignored, and acting out — and it’s everywhere, all the time, no matter where we go. The one well-behaved kid is the exception, not the rule.

Post # 36
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

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@MadameTussaud:  Not you specificlly, but the topic is going in other threads already. That is all. I just think in these threads lately people sometimes act really disprespectful of people with different opinions.

Post # 37
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@rubyred605:  Exactly.  It’s called “good parenting”.

I don’t understand this rampant hatred of children – pretty sure the average 5-year-old is just as angry that he/she is sitting in a bar or restaurant as the “child-hatin'” adults are.  That anger should be redirected at the self-centered parents who couldn’t be bothered to pay attention to their own children/get a friggin babysitter.

Have some sympathy for the poor kids.

 

Post # 39
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 1993

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@ieatunicorns:  People post endless dress regret posts and those bore the shit out of me, but they’re still welcome here.  Just like these should be.  

 

You do not have to click the thread title.

Post # 40
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Honey bee

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@LR2012:  I don’t think any of it is really directed at the children. Obviously they are just acting as kids do. Even if they are misbehaved, it’s because the parents let them be. I think most people would agree that parents are the problem, not actually the kids.

Post # 41
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

I have absolutely no problem with well-behaved children.  I have problems with adults who are failures as parents.

Last time I was at IKEA, a woman decided that instead of putting her kid in the handy-dandy childcare center they generously offer, that she’d let him play with his toy cars all over the store. He rammed one top speed off the highest shelf he could reach, and it landed sharp-part-down on the top of my foot.

My feet are NOT tender. But it hurt badly enough for me to say “Ouch!” loudly before I caught myself. It also left a large and obvious red mark. I looked at the mom. She said nothing. Finally after I stared her down for about 30 seconds, she had the kid apologize to me. She was just going to let him keep ramming that car off shelves!

If he had just walked in front of me or something, that would have been one thing, but I draw the line at things that actually cause physical pain. Kids need to be taught to apologize for that! (Or the parents can apologize for them, and then confiscate the toy or whatever.)

This is just one of many reasons I’d frequent kid-free establishments. Not all kids are bad, but my luck is, and I usually end up near the screamingest, fit-throwingest, most running amok kids in the whole place.

Post # 43
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@SoupyCat:  It seems like several posts are directed toward the kids (not just on this thread).  Maybe they just aren’t worded correctly, and could have been a bit clearer.

When I see things like, “I cringe when I see kids in a restuarant”, it just irks me a bit.  Kids are people, too.  Just smaller people who have been put in a sucky position.  They obviously didn’t ask to have blitering idiots for parents. 🙁

Post # 44
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 1993

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@LR2012:  I cringe when I see a sloppy drunk adult screaming at the tv screen just as I cringe at a kid in a bar/restaurant.  I don’t discriminate; I hate all annoying humans regardless of age, gender, creed, color, etc….

Post # 45
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Honey bee

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@LR2012:  Well, you wouldn’t know they were parents if the kid wasn’t there, you know?

But like MadameTussaud said, the kids are the ones doing the offending thing, but the parents are the offendors because they are in charge of where they take their children. Of course you’re going to annoyed at the kid who kicks your seat, but you don’t really blame them so much as you do the irresponsible parent.

Post # 46
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

In almost all cases it’s the parents that are the problem. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to realize that a bored and irritable child isn’t going to be the picture of well behaved. However, that doesn’t change the fact that he/she is still ruining other peoples experiences whether that be at a nice dinner, in the movie theater, etc. The parents should have the common sense to either know their childs routine and gauge whether or not they’ll have a meltdown prior to it happening (are you going out for dinner after their bed time?) or remove them promptly from the situation but unfortunately, that doesn’t always happen. Some parents are so used to their kids shrieks that they completely tune them out. Well, that may work at home but out in public where other people are subjected to them… shut your kid up or leave.

Unfortunately the good parents do suffer because the shitty ones taint everyone’s perception of them but that’s life. In situations like child free restaurants or hours, it’s all or nothing. A test will not be administered before being seated to see if your child can pass.

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