(Closed) Speaking of "no kids allowed"….

posted 8 years ago in Parenting
Post # 47
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@Blanche:  Nice!  Or as my mother puts it, “I’m an equal-opportunity hater”.

Post # 48
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@Blanche:  +1.

If I see threads called “Is my ring too big/small/sparkly/expensive” I don’t click on them because they annoy me. @MrsMeNow, learn to do the same.

I was a well behaved child, even at a young age, because if I did misbehave I would get told off by the people around, which was worse than being told off by a parent because you would be told off three times. Once by the stranger, once for being bad, and once for being bad enough for a stranger to have noticed.  

I once told a child to stop running around a shop because I nearly fell over him and the mother went nuts at me for it. People don’t want children around in public anymore because their parents can’t or won’t (most often won’t) control them. It is as simple as that.

Post # 49
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@flyawaycricket ummmm I am always super conscious of my language when I spot kids nearby… I’d like to not be parnoid I’m going to let one slip while drinking… Not even just that.. When I’m out drinking… we don’t really talk about the most appropriate things… I just don’t want to have to make sure I’m setting a good example. lol So no there are places children should not be allowed because there are some parents out there that don’t think.. and then I have to watch my behavior regardless if the parent shouldn’t have brought their kid… the onlky way to ensure this is to ban them.

Why do you feel it’s necessary to set a good example for children in public…. outside of observing “normal” behavioral rules?  Why should kids who are well behaved need to be “banned” because YOU feel an inappropriate need to check yourself?  if your behavior is appropriate for the general public then it should be ok for a kid.  Otherwise the PARENT is responsible for removing their kid.  It’s not up to you to decide what is ok for my kid to witness.  Even though my response came off like I disagree with you….  It’s that I disagree that you need to watch your behavior just because there are kids around.

 

The “kid” isn’t the problem.  The parent’s inability to teach good behavior and apply consequences is the problem. 

I guess I can see both sides.  I feel like there are times when I want a quiet dinner and some jackass is on a politcal rant about abortion or gun-control and I’d like to shut them up.  I’ve sat in a booth behind 4 obnoxious giggly 20 year olds sqwaking about who they had sex with last night and specifically what they liked about it.  I’ve also been out to dinner with my daughter and wished there weren’t brats at the table next to us.   

Instead of “adult only” areas I would be in favor of “quiet” areas of a restaurant.  If you are there to have dinner and engage in normal conversation then sit here.  If you are meeting your 3 besties that you haven’t seen since last summer and one of you just got engaged….. sit in this area.  etc etc.

Post # 50
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Bumble bee

My life (as a childless person) would be a lot less fun if you couldn’t take children to the pub. I’d see a lot less of my friends and family who have kids, for one thing. I don’t have kids of my own but I love that there are places we can go where we can all hang out together, the adults can have a drink, the kids can play at the park if there is one at that pub, draw with crayons, play with toys, eat…. it’s nice to be able to all go our together. I actually find it really challenging when friends and family with kids visit me to find enough places where we can go to with kids. I’d like to see a lot more family-friend beer gardens for lovely, summery, family days. 🙂

Post # 52
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Its a bar or lounge section of a resturaunt its 18 (or in some places 21) and over only. Its the law. You kid is not exempt from this. He or she is under the legal age. My Fiance and I went for a drink in the lounge section of a resturaunt, and a couple brought their baby in….Then made a very loud protest when they were asked to leave, it was kind of funny cause the manager said, very simply….”you child is not 18, this is the adult/bar section”. DUHHHHHHHH

 

 

Post # 53
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@3xaCharm:  I actually snapped at Fiance last night because he dropped an F-bomb at the Cubs game while a 6-year-old sat a couple seats over from us.

I think that remembering to censor ourselves every once in a while is a good thing.  It’s not just the kids who are offended by crass language! 

Post # 54
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I love children, and I can’t wait to have them! That being said, there are places kids don’t belong! I would bring my children to casual restaurants during early hours provided they could behave, which I don’t see being an issue as my fiance and I plan to be halfway decent parents someday! Kids shouldn’t be in bars. period.

 

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@LR2012:

and If I plan to go to a Cubs game, I’m prolly gonna drop the F-bomb at some point, and I’m not gonna worry about any little kids around me! As a parent, I would expect my child to hear bad words at a place for adults where tons of beer is served…especially if its a heated game! If they’re old enough to go, they’re old enough to understand what words are bad ones…If we were out with another couple with kids, or at disney world I’d watch my mouth

 

Post # 55
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@ForeverAndEverAfter:  Trust me…there’s no such thing as a “heated” Cubs game!

As a former potty-mouth myself, I just like to keep that stuff in check when I’m in public among mixed company.  Some people can be really sensitive about that stuff, and you just really never know who you’re going to offend.  But hey…when I’m home, it’s bombs away!

Post # 56
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

KIDS AT THE BAR ARE YOU F***ING KIDDING ME??? While you at it take them to an AA meeting just in case. No kid should be allowed close to the bar anywhere. If you want to have a drink at dinner then fine but dont sit them there. That looks horrible. Now onto their behavior hmmmm. My mother raised 5 of us to behave and respect no matter where we went and if we even tried to misbehave that look you know the one that their lips scrunched up in anger and the middle of their forehead too? Yes that is all it took and damnit if I didnt raise my 3 girls the same way. My lil one that is 5 sees a kid acting up she looks at me like oh no he didnt. I hate to go out and see a kid in a restaurant walking on booths, running around like its a damn park, or shouting and the parents like nothing laughing, drinking thinking that shit is funny. So because of their misbehaved, no home training kids restaurants have the choice to be a no kids restaurant. I have kids and I am for it. There are nights when the DH and I want to go out alone and have dinner and sum drinks we make sure we do not sit near kids. I left mine at home for a reason so I sure as hell dont want to sit next to yours. Whether they are good or bad its my choice.

Post # 57
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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@peachacid:  YESSS!!! AGREED!! I don’t know what is wrong with people (our society?) that people have such trouble knowing how to kindly, respectfully, but still firmly discipline their kids in appropriate ways!

ETA: I see on this thread that some of you do indeed do this– yay for you!! 🙂

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