Post # 1
I am getting married next June and I want to have a nice cermony that includes my kids. This is my first Wedding and I want my son to be the ring bearer. My son is the light of my life, but he suffers from Autism. I want his older cousin to walk with down the isle to help him with the pillow and to help him stay focus during our cermoney. I think it would be very cute for the two of them to be ring bearers together. But no one seems to like the idea.
I have heard everything for that it will throw off the cermony to what if he tanturms and ruins the wedding. I make me really angry, I don’t see anything wrong with have 2 ring bearers please give me your thoughts I don’t think I am being oversensitive at all. Please help?
Post # 3
Will you be upset if he loses focus, or cannot do it? If you will be upset, I think you should plan differently. If you don’t care either way, I think it’d be fine.
Post # 4
If you google two ringbearers, you will see that this has been done.
You know best about how your son will handle the situation. You didn
t say how old he is, but even if he completely freezes or gets upset, it wont be the first wedding where this has happened. You are the only one who can make the right decision for your son.
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
I don’t see anything wrong with it– I have 2 ring bearers & 2 flower girls lined up for my wedding, and it’s for a similar reason, one of the boys has down symdrom and couldn’t do it alone, but I want him involved, so my nephew, is going to walk with him. With his dad at the front to encourage him to walk that direction. And one of my flower girls is over the moon at being asked, but is terrified to walk up the aisle, so we don’t even know if she’ll make it or not. But if any of them throw a tantrum, or get off course, that’s OK! That’s part of what makes those memories special.
Post # 6
I don’t think he will be upset or lose his focus. And if he did it would be alright I love him and I know this can be a little difficult for him at times. I am planning to have a babysitter present at the cermony if he does get upset or annoy. Just in case. @peachacid:
Post # 7
I thiink its a sweet idea. It sounds like you’ve planned it out and are ok if theres some tears. I would go for it and even if it doesn’t go perfectly, it will probably be one of those memories you talk about for years.
Post # 8
Thank you. You just made me feel so much better. I have been keeping my son’s special needs in mind for our wedding, we are even planning to hire babysitters for our wedding to help all the parents that are bring their kids to our wedding.
Post # 10
Even if he wasn’t the ring bearer, the potential to throw a tantrum would still be there – and that goes for any child under a certain age, let alone one with special needs. The bottom line is that this is your wedding, and you should do what you want. If you want your son involved in your ceremony, and you think having his cousin along to help him out, then go for it.
Post # 11
I would definitely include your son – the wedding is about the creation of your family, of which he is a huge part, and not about having the perfect tableau to get pictures for a magazine spread or to win the Martha Stewart seal of approval. If this is what you and your Fiance wantto do, and if your son is okay with it, those are the important factors that should weigh in to the decision.