Post # 1
I’ve been really bummed this week. On January 20th, I was depressed because it was the 5 year anniversary of the death of my Grandmother. She and I were very close and it broke my heart to lose her. Then, this past weekend my other Grandmother passed away unexpectedly, which was also very hard for me. It’s been a tough month. It makes me really sad that I won’t have any grandmothers at my wedding. Both of them would’ve loved to have been at my wedding, and I want to find a special way to pay tribute to them.
What are some ways I can recognize them at the ceremony? I plan on mentioning them in the program, and have thought about putting a special rose where they would have been sitting, but I want something very noticeable. Any suggestions?
Post # 3
During the ceremony, the deacon will say a special rememberance to the deceased members of our families. I also plan on having their old wedding photos on display at the reception – possibly on the cake or escort card table.
Post # 4
I’m so sorry for your loss. I know how hard it is.
What we’re planning on doing at our wedding is putting their name on the chair that they would be sitting at with a single white rose. I also thought about maybe putting their picture in a nice frame and also putting that in the chair, but I haven’t decided on that yet.
I’ve heard of memory candles (displayed at a table with their names in front of it), or actually doing a picture table for “In Memory Of”.
Good luck, doll… hang in there.
Post # 5
At the ceremony… you could lay a rose on a seat where they would have sat. If you plan on going out and handing roses to your parents during the ceremony you could do it then.
At the reception.. Both my father (heart attack) and my BIL’s father (cancer) passed away before my sister got married. So at the reception she had a picture frame sitting on each guest table as favors. They had a small card in them that said; in honor of our father we will be donating money to the AHS or Cancer research in the name of our guests. It was worded better than that and looked really cute. She also had a pic of each father sitting on the guestbook table.
Post # 6
@ fancygirl – I love the idea of having their old wedding photos out at the reception. I may just do that.
@ MissChocolate – I’ve seen the memory candles and love them. Thanks for the condolences. :]
@rnc620 – I’m sorry to hear about your father. I love the idea of a donation also! One of my grandmothers passed away from breast cancer, so I could definitely do something with that. The other died from congestive heart failure.
I love all the suggestions. Thanks so much bees.
Post # 7
I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your grandmother. Fiance just lost his grandfather last week. It’s hard to go through those things when you’re getting close to celebrating something so special.
A friend of mine had pictures of their family who has passed set up on a table. As part of the processional, other family members walked up and placed a rose on the table. It was really neat to watch–simple but a nice tribute.
Post # 8
@lampshade – Thanks so much. I’m sorry for your fiance’s loss as well. It’s very tough. She was so excited for my wedding and I hate knowing that neither of them will be there. But I know that they will be there in spirit.
I love your suggestion, that has given me a really good idea. Thanks so much!
Post # 9
I’m so sorry for all of your losses. I totally empathize. 🙁
My grandmother, who helped raise me, passed away five years ago as well, and I’m struggling with ways that I can remember her on our wedding day. I know I’m definitely going to pin a locket with her picture in it to my bouquet. My father has passed on as well, so I might make it a double-sided locket with both of their pictures. I don’t want anything too showy but I do want to keep both of their memories close to me.
My fiancee’s grandmother passed away this past December very unexpectedly, just a week or so after we got engaged. The family is still very shell-shocked and I want to be sure we pay tribute to her, too. She was known for her incredible baking and cooking skills, so I think we’re going to have a table of cookies using all of her own recipes. I’m hoping to place a picture of her near the cookies and call it “Grandma Reich’s Cookie Table.” I’m hoping it will help stir up good memories instead of dwelling on sadness.
Good luck to you, nurselindsey! I know this is a bittersweet time since you wish your loved ones were here to be with you as you plan. And they are, somehow!
Post # 10
@ little_andrea – I’m so sorry to hear about your loss as well, and your fiance’s. I think that’s a great idea with the locket, that seems like a very special way to keep them close to your heart. I agree with you 100%, they are there, even if they can’t be there physically. Thanks dear, & good luck to you too!
Post # 11
we are planning on putting a little insert in our wedding programs that lists the people who are no longer with us and say a little something about them.
Post # 12
So sorry for your loss hon. My grandmother passed away this past summer, and she was a huge influence in my life. I’d like to put a digital picture frame with photos of those who couldn’t be with us on the guest book table. I’m also going to do the locket with a photo of my grandma in it on my bouquet. I’m not sure I could do the chair with the rose on it because I’m pretty sure I would break down bawling as soon as I saw it coming down the aisle.
We’re also donating to the Alzheimer’s Society (who are giving us packets of forget me not seeds for our guests). My other grandmother is suffering from it and I’m 90% sure that she won’t be able to make it to the wedding. It’s so sad to be missing those people so close to us, but it will feel so good to keep them in our hearts and minds on our wedding day and know they would be so happy for us.
Post # 13
I am having a small locket on my flowers with my grandmother’s photograph, that is really just for me. On a more public scale, I am putting names of ppl we lost in the program and possibly having someone sing a song in their honor.
Post # 14
@Nurselindsey: I’m so sorry for your loss and will keep your family and you in my thoughts and prayers. It’s so hard. We lost our grandmother, last one surviving and like a mom to my sister and I a little over two weeks ago. We buried her two weeks ago today.
What I’m doing is serving as favors cupcakes in her famous coca cola cake recipe at the reception and having the most gorgeous photo of her (she looked like Rita hayworth back in the day) in the 40’s in an ornate glam frame (to match her beautiful picture) beside it.
Do you have a special family recipe that she created? sharing that love with family and friends at your wedding is a wonderful way to honor them.
If I put a rose on the seat where she would have been sitting, I’d be a puddle of tears. I still will miss her and my father there sooo much, but will honor them with carrying their pics in a locket in my bouquet and serving her cupcakes.
Post # 15
Yes my cousin saved the first seat for our grandma who passed with her picture on the chair we got a little teary eyed but it was a great way to have her there.
Post # 16
@Bellenga – Thank you so much. I’m sorry for your loss as well and I will also keep your family in my thoughts and prayers! It’s such a tough time to go through. My Grandmother that passed away 5 years ago, I still cry daily over her. I never realized how much I would miss her. The one that died a few weeks ago, I loved her dearly but didn’t get to see her as often as I did my other one. But it was still very tough. I love the cupcake idea! My grandmother made some amazing banana pudding, maybe I could do something with that? 🙂
& Thanks to all you other bees that responded, you’e gievn me some really good ideas!