(Closed) Specific wording on RSVP cards

posted 4 years ago in Food
Post # 2
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Sugar bee

Don’t put ‘served medium’ on the card. It’s not expected nor have I ever seen it as a guest. As an event planner of many years, I would NEVER let someone do this unless their guest list was 30 or less.

Seriously, there is no reason to do this and it will invite people to line it out and write in their preferred ‘doneness’… then you have a HUGE problem on your hands.

 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I don’t understand why there is only one option for the filet? I provided my venue with the table #s, guest names and meal selections. The servers confirmed with the guests ahead of meal service, “Hi, Mrs Smith, you’ll be having the filet tonight? How would you like that cooked?” or something to that effect. How can the kitchen not accomodate on the day of, how each guest that orders filet wants theirs prepared? 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

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panda_bear3 :  Seriously?! How many people did  you have at your wedding? Was it a separately grilled filet, or a filet sliced out of a grilled whole tenderloin? I find that pretty amazing!

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper

 I’ve never encountered a caterer who won’t cook a filet to order. If that is not negotiable I’d probably serve something else, or a combination of the two, so everyone will have something.

Why don’t you just use the word vegan or vegan/vegetarian for the vegetarian choice?

I know many places don’t offer the option to order everything at the table, but when at all possible I prefer no reference to the menu on or in an invitation.

Some caterers will accommodate if you make an issue of this. Technically, it is proper to serve what you are going to serve, day of. 

Another option, if your numbers allow is to discuss with people individually. 

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I would give your guests an option of filet mignon or (whatever the vegetarian/vegan dish actually is). I don’t think you need to describe the categories or provide a description of “doneness.” If someone is concerned about whether the other option is vegan as well as vegetarian, he or she likely will just call you to ask. If someone at the wedding will only eat well done beef, the person will likely ask the server if his or her steak could be cooked a bit more.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Is there a need to be so specific? You can write beef, chicken, vegan. This way, it shouldn’t matter how the meat is cooked. I like my meat medium-rare, but if I picked the beef option, it wouldn’t matter if it was well done, I would still eat and be happy.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper

If I selected the filet and it arrived medium I would think it was overcooked but would never complain. Do your family members/friends typically complain about things in general?

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

We are serving surf and turf (filet of beef with a shrimp skewer). On our response card, I simply wrote “Please list any dietary restrictions”. If nothing is listed, the guest will receive the surf and turf as is. Only those who list specific dietary restrictions will be given another meal (we have a ravioli dish for vegetarians, and anyone Girlfriend will recive the surf and turf with Girlfriend modifications). Don’t give people too many choices. I would write: ____Filet of Beef or _____Vegetarian. Keep it simple!!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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katebluestone :  we had 78/110 order the filet! It was separately grilled (and delicious!)

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I agree with what @coopersmama said but would change vegetarian to say vegan. I’m vegan, and if the option said vegetarian, then I would assume I couldn’t eat it and bring my own snacks in my purse. Or if there was a dietary restrictions line, then I would write in vegan. I think writing vegan instead of vegetarian next to the line the guests check/initial will eliminate any possible confusion and ensure no guests contact you to ask if the vegetarian option is vegan. 

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