(Closed) Speeches? Are you having them? Are they a must?

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Worker bee

i really don’t find speeches to be necessary…for a few reasons: 

-Most of the time I cannot hear what the speaker is saying from wherever I am standing.

-No one ever likes getting up and speaking in front of a crowd…trust me, I know, I speak in front of crowds frequently with my line of work and even I still get nervous from time to time. I don’t want to make anyone feel anxious or nervous on my day.

-If they go on for too long, it’s boring.

-Many times the speaker puts a personal experience or inside joke in the speech and leaves most of crowd going ‘huh’?  

There are probably many more reasons for me…but those are a few reasons why I won’t have them at my wedding…fine if others want that, it may be important to them.  I just don’t find it necessary.  Hope that helps!

Post # 4
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2947 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I think we’ll have a couple speeches, but it won’t go on and on. My Fiance is deaf so he’d feel pretty left out of them.

Speaking of, any bee saying anything? I’m super shy and the thought of standing up there and saying something makes me queasy.

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think we will probably just have the Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man say something really quick and then get on with our party. We have known both of them for over 10 years and they both really mean a lot to us. :o)  

I might have my dad say something short and sweet but that hasn’t been decided yet.

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I really don’t want to have any speeches so I’m hoping everyone forgets LOL but my Fiance really want’s his best man to say a few words so that might end up being the only one.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

At the reception, I think we’re going to do speeches from my parents, my fiance’s mom (if she wants…English is her second language and I dont want her to feel uncomfortable), and the best man and maid of honor. My brother will probably also say something. My parents really hate when speeches go on and on.

We’re going to let our wedding party and friends know that other speeches can be done at the rehearsal dinner if they want. Its just a better venue for it.

Post # 9
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5494 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

Speeches are one of my favorite parts of the wedding so yes we had them.  Lots of them.

Post # 10
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1920 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I love speeches at weddings they are my favourite part. So I am definitely having them!! I do agree that they can get kind of boring if people drone on but you can always give them a timelne and an expectation of how long their speech should be.

Post # 12
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2947 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

To the bees who are planning to give speeches, are you going to wing it or will you have a notecard? 

Post # 13
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2233 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I hate speeches. I hate sitting through them. I’ve only been to one wedding where the speeches were good and enjoyable that I didn’t even notice they took 2 hours!!

That being said we’re going to have a few people give very brief speeches. My dad, Fiance (and me too I guess, to thank everyone) and the best man. That’s it. 15 minutes max!

I also have nightmares about one of his friends doing or saying something really embarrassing so I am trying to cut it short! 

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