(Closed) Speeches… When?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 4
7311 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

Typically weddings around here do all speeches before the first course is served. This tends to annoy me because I am hungry and want to eat, gosh darnit. We broke our speeches up so that they didn’t ridiculously delay food service and/or bore anyone to tears for a long period of time. We also limited speeches to 5 minutes or less and threatened to crank up the music volume if anyone went overtime, ala the Oscars. 🙂

1. Mr. LK’s welcome speech

2. 1st course served

3. Best man and motron of honor speeches

4. 2nd course served

5. Family speeches

6. 3rd course served

7. 4th course served

Post # 5
2854 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think we’re going to do ours before, just because everyone will be seated and there won’t be awkward “can I get up without interrupting” moments… but we’re only doing my dad’s welcome, BM/MOH speeches, and I think that’s it.

Unless we have to say something? I’d planned table visits, but didn’t think about anything else.

Post # 6
2183 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

We did them after dinner, just before the cake cutting and the opening of the dance floor.


Post # 7
542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I guess it depends on how many people want to give speeches.

I only had my Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man and my parents who wanted to give speeches

I broke it up as follows

Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man before dinner. My mom and dad before my father/daughter dance which was after the salad course.

Post # 8
235 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’ve only encountered speeches done during the meal (although my sister’s Maid/Matron of Honor did an impromptu, unscheduled speech mid-way through the dancing part of her reception). Seems like a good plan because it doesn’t leave people standing around bored, but then sometimes people aren’t really listening if they’re trying to get food — especially with a buffet!

I think ours will be sometime during the meal, but with only 50 guests I’m not worried about people not hearing.

Post # 9
93 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

We’re debating this timing, too!  I’d love to hear about more Bees’ experiences.

Post # 10
1498 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I always prefer them to be done towards the end of dinner, that way I can still be eating and not sitting there bored and starving or waiting for the next course to come out, and I can be doing something at the same time as listening to the speeches. If our Bridesmaid or Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor want to do speeches we’ll do them as everyone is finishing up their dinner (we’re not having family speeches).

Post # 11
1425 posts
Bumble bee

Generally around here, speeches are done after supper while dessert is being eaten.  I find it works as people are done eating the main course, gave them enough time to get up and grab a drink or head to the bathroom. 


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