Post # 62
you say if you had the money you would not spend it on a wedding, then why be jealous? I honestly would not spend 1,000 on a dress, especially if I only had a 3,000 or less in my budget. Or if I had a 100,000 budget I personally still would not have spent 1,000$ on a dress but thats just me…. and if you have the money why not have a $30,000 or a million $ wedding??? Spend whatever you want and can affored just dont go into debt or take out a loan. I think its really bad when people have a wedding they can not afford and go into debt just for one day.
I also know that we have been saving for a very long time so we can put more towards a wedding and are more willing to put more towards a wedding at 26 years old then we would have been at 21years old. There is a big difference in 5 years worth of savings!!
My husband and I, my husbands family and my family all gave put in an ammount they were willing to put towards a wedding, thats how we came up with our budget. Then we decided what we were going to do with the money. We could keep it and save it or plan a wedding. We decided to plan a wedding have a honeymoon and save part of it. We had an amazing wedding and honeymoon and still had enough left to put in savings, thats what was important to us
Do not compare your wedding to other peoples, everybody is different and everybody values different things. You can have an amazing wedding on a small budget, or wait a bit longer and save be creative and good luck!
Post # 63
I have found that best wedding is the one you can afford. You won’t lose a wink of sleep over how much you spent
Post # 64
We were lucky enough to have received the money from my parents but I still have a hard time writing out all the checks. It made my stomach hurt. Our budget is in the arena of what the OP mentioned as being jealous of. But for where we live, we are having a “budget wedding” cutting corners on things and sticking to a strick budget breakdown. It just costs a ton to have a larger wedding in this area for 130 people. I was the one who wanted a small intimate, immediate family only wedding. But it was super important to my Fiance to have a big, Italian wedding with a sit down dinner, etc. Yes, we could have saved the money or used it for more “practical” things but it was important to him.
OP I’m sorry you’re feeling jealous. But at the end of the day, we will all still be married and isn’t that the whole point. Plenty of people have six figure weddings and end up divorced. So do people who have JOP weddings. I think it just comes down to how strongly you really feel about have a big party or a pretty princess day as I’ve heard it referred to as on some other sites. I hope people don’t think I’m trying to be contrary and start any drama. That is not my intention but honestly, I take a small amount of offense to the poster that called it “unethical” to throw a wedding that costs more than $1,000. Sometimes there is a long story behind how/why couples decide to throw such an expensive party. Money is such a personal thing and what each bride does with hers is only her business. Some people (like me) have parents who felt it was super important to be able to give us the money to have a wedding if we chose. My parents are not flashy people. It was more about the fact that my dad had a horrible childhood and upbringing and wants his kids to have more than he had. He has told me many times that is why he works as hard as he does. I didn’t expect any money from my parents. It would have hurt my dad’s feelings tremendously if I would have told him I wasn’t going to accept his money.