(Closed) Spending christmast where?

posted 3 years ago in Married Life
Post # 2
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Honey bee

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naomi01 :  is he only like this with your family? Or is he just a “loner” in general? And was he always like this? Even before you got married?

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Honey bee

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naomi01 :  well I mean, if he’s always been a loner, I suppose you can’t expect him to change just because you got married. I do understand your frustration though. Can you guys come to a compromise? Maybe visit your family but take separate cars? That way you can spend some time with him and your family, but he can leave when he’s ready to leave?

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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

In my opinion holidays are all about being miserable. First we go to his family’s house and I get stressed out and miserable because no one is watching the children so I become the policeman. Then we drive an hour to my family’s house so that he can be miserable because by that point we are tired and he just wants to go home. Buuut we love each other and it is a trade off. If you are trying to make him go all day I think that is way too much overload. Just go for dinner hang out for a bit and head out! He should be able to do that for you.

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

Christmas is tough as you can be pulled in so many different directions.

We don’t have quite the same distance issues as you, but we do one Christmas my family, the next his, then on our own, then mine, his etc. Even then though, the time we’d spend with family (his or mine) is usually afternoon into the evening – and not staying late.

Last year we saw family on Christmas eve and boxing day instead of Christmas day itself where we just chilled out the two of us and our cats. Maybe you could do something similar this year as a compromise if you have spent the last few with your family?

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