Post # 32
Biggest mistake was definitely booking that venue. How much deposit have you given them? What does your contract say? If you haven’t given them too much it’s always possible just to let it go and find something cheaper. That would be the easiest way to save money. Where is this wedding at? Area?
If not, can you switch to a cheaper package or cut something else in there?
Also I would:
Cut the flowers (way down, you could halve this easily)
Cut the video (cut it out completely, or have a friend film for free)
Cut all the extras (you don’t need favors, and I don’t know what else your Misc includes)
OH…and yep, you need to tell your Fiance.
Post # 33
I see you updated.
I would DIY flowers then. Or only pay for personal flowers. (save $2500-$3000)
If your centerpieces are flowers, cut them and do something else (candles, etc).
I would cut the DJ maybe (depending on how much you’ve given him?…find someone cheaper).
CUT the VIDEO! (save $1500). Have someone else film for free
That could be $4000-$5000 saved right there.
Cut all the silly extras (favors, etc)
Post # 34
Videogragher is too important to give up. But I will look into the flowers! You are right about that! I found so many ideas on this website for centerpieces. Thank you for that! I’m glad I’ve realized that everything is not set in stone.
Post # 35
You should be able to get a video for much less than $1500. You would have to watch that video every single day for the rest of your life to make it worth spending that kind of money on … how often do you seriously, realistically think it will get watched?
It’s up to you and your Fiance, of course, but in this situation I would say easing the financial strain on your new marriage far outweighs the importance of having a fancy video of the wedding.
Post # 36
A few ideas:
-If you shop around you should be able to find a cheaper photographer and DJ. I found many vendors at bridal shows who offered reduced rates if you attended the show. We found our photographer and DJ at shows. Our photographer was $1,050.00 and he was excellent. Our DJ was $795.00 and did a great job too.
-What does the $1,000.00 charge for the ceremony include?
-$3,000.00 seems a bit high for the misc items. You can find inexpensive save the dates and invites online (ex. http://www.123print.com).
Edit: One more tip- we were able to negotiate the service charge that our venue charged us. It was 20% of the total and we got that cut in half.
Hope this helps!
Post # 37
@girlygurl: How much would you lose in the deposit if you were to cancel your current venue? $140/head seems pretty steep – you can generally find a decent venue for closer to $80/head (which would save you nearly $10K there). Even if you were to lose a few thousand in the deposit, I daresay it’d be worth it for what you might be able to save.
Failing that, perhaps try changing the deal you have with the current venue? Another poster suggested having a cash bar, I would also recommend looking into a daytime wedding with a lunch reception – then you’re not really expected to serve a three course meal with loads of alcohol either.
I’m not sure where you’re from, but $3500 for flowers would be considered very steep here. Are the flowers you’re ordering in season? How many different flowers are going into each bouquet, and can you cut down on it? Are you using flowers for decoration (e.g. decorating the aisle, table decorations, etc.), can you swap flowers for a cheaper option? Maybe see if you have a crafty bridesmaid or relative that would help you out with making something yourself, or just go without! Also check with your venue about decor for tables – at the price they’re charging you, I would hope that would include decoration for the whole room, so you may not need to purchase flowers other than the bouquets and boutonierres.
Is your photographer doing your video too? Do they offer some kind of deal or discount if they’re both done together? Can you change packages and/or make some adjustments to what they’re offering (e.g. instead of receiving an album of photos, can you get an extra hour of photography for the same price?)
Post # 38
@girlygurl: My two biggest money savers were doing all of my own stationary and I’m DIYing my flowers. I agree with the other bees about negotiating with your vendors, instead of an open bar maybe just have wine, beer and a few signature drinks. Best of luck!
Post # 39
Your DJ and flowers are VERY expensive!! I had a 30k wedding and my DJ was only $500.
Post # 40
I don’t think your Fiance will be mad, or at least not “too” mad. It’s not like you selfishly spent that extra $15,000 on a dress just for you or anything like that.
But anyway, even if you cut expenses here and there by getting rid of videography and cutting down on flowers/stationary/favors, that still would not get anywhere close to 15k. And to me you been fairly reasonable in all these areas, with the exception of a videographer (which is a luxury expense IMO) and the favors/STDs/invites. What is causing this favor/STD/invite category to be so pricey?
So in conclusion, obviously you need to figure something out with the venue. Would you lose the entire 12k deposit if you cancelled that venue?
Our budget was also 25k and now it’s 30k because everything is costing much more than we initially thought. We are renting a private residence in the mountains/woods that allows weddings. Our venue is $7500 with a 4-night stay for us and close friends/family. It was a much more reasonable option than the typical halls/venues.
Post # 41
I also agree that the DJ and flowers are a bit out of control.
Cut those down. Cut down on some of your miscellaneous costs. Also, are you sure you’re covering everything in there? I see the dress, but not alterations and accessories. Are those in miscellaneous? Transportation?
I guess I’m seeing that you are planning a wedding that won’t spare any luxury… and if you continue on that line, you’re probably goign to run into a few more things that you didn’t account for. How about the honeymoon? Was all that supposed to be in the $25,000 too?
Remember- the wedding isn’t about creating a beautiful photograph that you can post on pinterest. It’s about starting a life together. You can do that on any budget, in any room, with no flowers, and no DJ. Everything you DO pay for is icing on the cake…
Post # 42
The misc. includes limo, altertions, accessories, bridal party gifts, gifts for hotel guests and tips.
The ceremony includes a fee that the church has since we are not members of that church. Also music.
The wedding takes place in NYC.
I wish I would have discovered this website before I started planning my wedding. I cannot change the venue. But I will call them about switching removing the viennese hour. That should save me about 3k. I will get rid of my centerpieces and use candles. Not sure how much that will save me.
Your ideas have opened my eyes. Thank you so much. I am glad I decided to post here.
Post # 43
@girlygurl: Have you booked your DJ? My DJ was from NY and very reasonable. You may want to look into canceling your DJ contract and getting a more reasonable DJ. What was your DJ deposit? And is it refundable since its still so far ahead? Even if you have to eat the deposit, booking a much cheaper DJ could still save you over $1K
Post # 44
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
@girlygurl: It sounds like everything was not so bad…except the venue OMG. I’m just a small town midwestern girl but our venue was only $800 and that includes ceremony and reception for a day and a half. Sure we have to provide food, drinks etc but at least with this route we can decide what to serve and how much to spend.
Good luck and things will work out themselves somehow. Just be honest and talk to H2B.
Post # 45
@girlygurl: Since I’ve never even heard of a Viennese hour, I’d say you can probably do just fine without it. Especially at a savings of $3000. What is it, anyway?
Post # 46
It adds an extra hour to your reception. Think of it as cocktail hour at the end of the night but of just desserts. All kinds. Its actually my favorite part. But I like the savings a bit more.