Post # 47
I know that in NYC everyone has a Viennese table but it may just need to go. Perhaps instead you can do a candy bar so that you have something but it will be a lot cheaper to stock this yourselves. I’d cut the limo too, you won’t miss it. Cutting floral centerpieces for candles will save a ton. For bridal party gifts, perhaps you can make them something instead? For accessories perhaps you can borrow things instead of buying new–make it your “something borrowed”?
Post # 48
@girlygurl: Talk with your caterer or a friend about having a small plate of warm chocolate chip cookies and milk just for you and your *new husband* when you leave the reception… in the limo, or at the hotel, or wherever. Make your own Viennese hour, romantic and private. 🙂
Post # 49
1. You do not need favors, cut them.
2. Call Venue, Can you get less expensive appetizers, liquor (change to wine and beer only, get rid of champagne toast)
3. DIY flowers, get your mom to help.
4. Second job.
Post # 50
If you can’t change the venue (Is it that you have your heart set on the current place or is there another reason?)…
agree with several of the PPs. you can scrap the centerpieces and use candles (buy them wholesale online or at a local dollar or craft store). If you still need personal flowers (bouquets and whatnot) and don’t have anyone to help you DIY, you could look for a florist that works out of their home. The overhead is lower and they will offer you a better deal…or at least that’s what I’ve found.
What was the deposit on the DJ? If it wasn’t too high, could forfeit that, get a more affordable DJ and still save there.
Skip the favors and do a candy/treats bar instead that you could stock yourselves…I’ve seen so many creative ideas on here that, to be honest, I like more (if not better) that the Viennese hour (at our venue, it’s $10 pp). Or maybe chocolate covered strawberries on each plate…a little touch, but something people would like and enjoy.
You can tell Fiance that you will look to sell your dress (and whatever other decor you can) after the wedding and make a little back…
Finally, are there any family members that would chip in a little? Maybe help with the DJ or photography costs?
Good luck! You’ve caught your mistakes early enough, I believe there’s time to rectify this and still have the wedding you’re dreaming of. 🙂
Post # 51
One more thing to remember and budget in… taxes, tips, etc. With that big of a budget, those things really add up. I think there’s still time to cut back, especailly if you stick with us 😉
Post # 52
- Wedding: October 2014 - Disney
@EffieTrinket: I’m with you 100% on this. If your budget is 25k you do not get a 24k venue
Post # 53
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
I know it sounds scary to cut flowers, but I highly recommend this. I’m struggling with my wedding budget and have cut flowers down from $4300 to $2900, including taxes, service fees, etc. I could cut it even more if I wanted to.
My brother recently got married and only had the wear and carry flowers. No centerpieces. No ceremony arrangements. Nothing for the entryway, or cocktail tables, or cake, or mantles, or escort card table. At first, I thought that sounded horrible. But you know what? It was fine!! It didn’t matter that they didn’t have centerpieces made of flowers. They used fall leaves and candelabras instead. It looked great! They used the bridesmaid bouquets to set around the cake table.
I don’t think anyone missed the extra flowers, and they saved thousands of dollars. Boutonnieres and bouquets only cost about $500-$600 and that’s from a premium florist. So, it may seem impossible, but cut those flowers!!! You won’t miss them!
Post # 55
Do the venue have a different and cheaper room you can reserve??
Post # 56
Sort out your priorities!
You need an officiant, marriage license, food, venue and photographer to have a standard wedding (and attire, but it sounds like you’ve already got that). Video, flowers, favours, decorations- FLUFF. IF you can afford it, they’re nice, but you do NOT need it to host people.
Rather than a dj, use an ipod. Get someone to video your wedding if you want, there are companies that will edit home made wedding videos for you, or get a student to do it. Hair and make up? DIY. Centerpeices? Go and get some cheap vases or pots, some branches and a few tea light candles. Stick the branches in the vases, light the candles and bam! Almost free centerpeices. Flowers? If you can’t make them, buy fake silk ones from ebay for the boquets and have no others. Chair sashes? Nope. Nobody cares about them. Open bar? Not anymore. Bridal car? Use your own car. Nobody cares what you show up in. Cake? Nah-uh. If you must have one, go to a bakery, buy a normal cake and stick a topper on it, or make one yourself.
Personally, i’d be going over my contract with the venue to see how much you can get back. If you can’t get any back, start looking for a new venue that is ONLY a couple of grand, if that. You can sometimes hire halls for $100. Are they beautiful and perfect, no, but at least you won’t need an extra $15k. Preferably find one that allows you to choose your own caterer, then look at that. With a new venue, you’ll be able to cut down the guest list too. You can still have a really nice wedding for a small cost (comparitively). Our wedding will cost 7k AT MOST and it’s exactly what i’ve always wanted. You can do this! Just sort out your priorities, DIY as much as you can and seriously cut out all the extra stuff nobody will care about.
Post # 57
@Lovemelovemyhorses: good points. As I was reading it, though, I couldn’t help but think “Someone who books a 25K venue in NYC probably wouldn’t want to do some of what you’ve suggested.”
I’m still stuck on why the venue can’t be changed (unless the deposit was too substantial to forfeit). There’s definitely time and there are definitely way cheaper options out there (even in the big cities or the suburbs of those cities).
Post # 58
@babycakes24: She said that she’s already put $12,000 on the venue.
In addition to lots of other suggestions (cutting Viennese hour, DIY flowers, centerpieces, no limo, etc.), cut out your gifts for hotel guests. I guess I have no idea what this is, but it seems wasteful to me, especially when you’re WAY overbudget. Find another DJ (ours was $750!), and I’d probably just forgo videography. How often are you going to watch that video? Not very, and definitely not enough to justify $1500 when you’re already getting pro photography.
The problem that most people don’t seem to realize in this thread is that your wedding is in NYC, which equals very expensive, unfortunately.
Candles – don’t get expensive ones! Find a Dollar Store/Dollar Tree and buy them there. Flowers – find a flower market and watch some YouTube videos to DIY the bouquets and bouts (or there are sites like afloral.com that have DIY tutorials for their silk flowers, which is probably what I’m going to use for my bouquets).
Post # 59
Can you cut the flowers, maybe the limos? I know it’s in NYC so the limo thing is kind of a necessary evil. Can you you get rid of gifts for hotel guests, favours, and drop down the DJ bill a bit?
Reread your venue contract, maybe you can talk to the coordinator there and ask about meal options, perhaps you can offer a roast beef instead of prime rib, etc…that kind of thing. Getting rid of the Viennesse hour is totally fine too, it won’t be missed. Are you doing premium bar options or just regular?
Post # 60
@mrsromo: Ditto to all of this. Cutting video and floral (or at least drastically reducing floral) will help immensely. And have invites or Save-The-Date Cards gone out? Cut guest list? Change to cheaper food/booze option.
Post # 61
First, I’m really glad you’re going to tell him and interested to see how that goes. He really should have been keeping track along with you. He wasn’t “letting” you handle the financials. I mean who gets all excited about budgeting. He didn’t want to deal with it and it’s partially his fault for not keeping track. But regardless of how it happened I think you need to drastically cut back. Cut down to the cheapest options they have at the venue. Cut the limo. Cut favors and hotel gift bags. Cut or drastically reduce flowers. And I am another vote for cut videography. Have a friend or family do a DIY version. I know you said you don’t want to cut videography, but have you really thought through what you’re going to do when all this money is due? Are you ready to go into debt for your wedding?!? Is your fiance?!? Would you even be able to get the credit for that much? It’s no longer a matter of want. It’s a matter of need. But I think with some harsh cutting , it could work! Good luck!