Post # 62
Venue: 24,000.00 140/pp x 175 people- Not a lot you can do about this at this point
Dress: 1650- if you need alterations I’d say you should find somewhere cheaper, the shops seem to charge a bit more.
Flowers: 3500-Any local florists or green houses? You could do you own boquets and such.
Photo- 3000- A college student studying photography could do this cheaper and still be great.
Video- 1500- Family friend?
Ceremony- 1000- Not much you can do.
DJ- 2400- Again a college student or local DJ? The ones here are $600-$700.
Misc- 3000 (favors, save the dates, invitations, etc)-DIY favors and such?
Not sure if you’ve signed contracts or already spent this stuff but doing a lot yourself my save you and I agree with the rest tell your fiance immidately! That’s not a good way to start a marriage. He may be upset at first but he’ll get over it.
Post # 63
oops…missed the part where she had mentioned 12K down already on the venue. yikes. that’s a hefty deposit! guess not much you can do there…what was the deposit for the photog (or did I not find that in the sea of posts either)? i’m confident you could get a good photo/video package for the 3K (if you can’t go without the video and there isn’t anyone willing/able to do it for you). maybe through GeorgeStreet?
Post # 64
How the heck is your dj 2400? is he famous or something? and 3000 for pictures that is almost unheard of, I think your wedding is getting a little out of hand
Post # 65
- Wedding: October 2019 - City, State
@girlygurl: wait what… your venue was 24,000 alone and you had a 25k budget? makes no sense. Even he should have realized with those numbers that you were absolutely going over budget.
Post # 66
@girlygurl: Does the venue offer a smaller, less expensive room to hold the reception? That might help cut costs a lot.
Post # 67
@alleycat1984: I don’t know where you’re from, but I’m getting married in a relatively small area population-wise, and my photographer cost $2900. 3k is pretty standard. But the DJ cost seems ridiculous.
Post # 68
The DJ includes:
Music for the cocktail hour
Percussionist to play along with the DJ
Our names on the dance floor
Post # 69
@girlygurl: Why do you need 2 DJs? Or a percussionist? I think you need to be realistic about your budget and what it’s going to get you in a city like NYC. Extras, like the percussionist, aren’t being realistic.
Post # 70
@cmbr: I agree. Which is why I am making changes. I just wanted to share why I received a quote of $2400 for a dj.
Post # 71
@girlygurl: I would also drop the gifts for hotel guests. I know it’s a nice touch but it’s an unnecessary expense. All of the favors are, really.
Post # 72
Yeah, the prices are way high on your vendors. I think you should try some DIY things, I made my own submersible centerpieces for about $15/ea. and they would have cost me $50 a piece to rent. I also would negotiate with vendors, and if they don’t agree to your price then go with someone who will. I was a tough negotiator with ALL of our vendors and I’ve booked everyone at half their price and got the vendors we wanted. I’ve since even had people who said no to my price in the beginning email me back practically begging me to book them (too late). I went to sites that rate vendors to get a contact list together. Also a wedding planner may not be a bad idea, if you tell them what you want and how much you have left to spend they can pretty much work in your budget. They have contacts with vendors and get steep discounts. Many do free consultations, so it can’t hurt.
Get a job somewhere that offers a discount that may benefit the wedding somehow. I was a non-working FT student and I got a PT job at a jewelery store. It’s double duty because I’m helping save for the wedding and in the meantime we got his wedding band and my wedding jewelery @ cost.
Last piece of advice, your Fiance and you need to communicate about the budget and re-work numbers very often!!! My Fiance and I do this about once a week, even if we haven’t purchased anything, recalculating with what we made for the week. We have actually ended up from starting with a $20,000 budget and brought it down to $9,000 including honey moon and honey moon spending $. I think we’ve done the budget 20 times, but we have everything we want and then some. I like to think of myself as a master budgeter/financial planner/negotiator, so planning our wedding was like one big fun challenge. I put in countless hours of research, but we booked everything in 2 months and now the next 6 months we just have fun stress free stuff to worry about like his accessories and I get to do all my DIY stuff 🙂
Post # 73
I like lmluna310’s suggestion of communicating frequently to revisit the budget…We’ve done that a few times so far and I think it’s working to our advantage.
Post # 74
How did the conversation go with you FI?
I second cutting what folks suggested above – DJ, flowers, extras (bags for guests, favors, etc.) You don’t have the money. Also – as someone who played a lot of music growing up – I would NOT want a percussionist at a wedding with a DJ. It doesn’t really make sense and would likely be too noisy to boot. If you had a band sure, but with a DJ? And why the heck did you want two DJs? If the DJ leaves for a bite to eat or a break, they can still set up songs to play. You can skip the cocktail hour music (people will talk easier anyhow) or find one for cheaper. Ours was $600 for 5 hours of music and he did a great job. No, there were no lights with our names, but no one misses it. For the video, just set up a camera to record and save the $1500. Again, you can’t afford to spend that money.