- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
That’s what I call my son’s father, because that is all he is. Yes, he pays child support when he has a job, which he regularly loses. But my last straw came this past Saturday with him.
He’s made some bad choices this year. In retrospect, his wife is divorcing him today and back in September he got a DUI. So he’s miserable and can’t drive. While I would normally have sympathy for someone in that situation I don’t for him. He made his bed and now that he’s lying in it he’s not happy.
I can’t tell you the last time he spent any quality time with my son. Last April was the last time he took him overnight. Only to find out that his wife took my son over to another person’s house she had to babysit for while his sperm donor (SD) went to a party. This past Christmas SD sold me 2 pieces of heirloom that were his grandmothers. His grandma and I were really close. He dropped them off at my house and my son wouldn’t even look at him. What do you expect? It’s been 8 months! I don’t blame him!
No birthday present, no Christmas present. Never calls to see how he’s doing, never asks over text message or facebook. Finally he asks if I can drop of my son at his mothers house (she lives 20 minutes from me, and hasn’t seen my son in over a year…yeah, that’s another rant all in itself). I asked my son if he wanted to go, he said yes. Great, I drop him off at 10am, told them he had to bring him back to me by 4:30 that day (this past Saturday). They’re early, they drop him off at 4 and my son reeks of smoke. Yes, I am a smoker, but I do not smoke in my house or my car.
I asked my son if he had a good time, he said it was ok. I asked him what they did. He said he played with cars on the floor while Daddy watched wrestling on TV all day.
Awesome. You haven’t seen your son in almost a year and you can’t take 6 hours out of 1 day to spend some quality time with him? You don’t even have to go anywhere! Get your ass on the floor and play cars with him. Help him build a lego castle, something. Anything.
I just don’t understand how a father can simply not care about his kid. I’m totally baffled by it. Needless to say I blocked him from my facebook. When he asked me why he couldn’t see my pictures anymore, I told him to take his own and that if he wanted to know how his son was doing, he could call him. But that I wasn’t going to keep him in the loop anymore.
I’m sorry, but this has been going on for 8 years. I’m tired of it. I’m tired of trying to explain to him on how to be a good dad. I’m tired of lying to my son so that I don’t become the bad guy. I’m just done. Put a fork in me.