(Closed) Spice up our sex life! Suggestions?

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Have you ever been to a sex shop together? Go and just buy stuff to try out. It will be fun. My Darling Husband isnt into toys but I have them and he likes to see me excited when coming out of my comfort zone. It depends how far you guys are willing to go in the bedroom. In my bed I have no limits

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

You can also introduce “naughty” board games.  It’s a good place to start if you consider yourself conservative. FI was A LOT more conservative than I was.  It was difficult to get him out of his routine.  Introducing the board games got him out of his comfort zone without him feeling overwhelmed.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Lingerie and lubricants… 

I like this company, all there lubricants are “healthy” for you!

http://pureromance.com/

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think you should buy some sex toys.  You don’t have to go all out and get like, anal beads, but there are definitely some tamer options that help spice things up.

If you were only to get one thing, I’d suggest a vibrating cock ring.  They are amazing and stimulate both of you.  A vibrator (if you don’t already have one) for him to use on you, or for you to masturbate in front of him, is also a lot of fun.  

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

This one is free: get OUT of the bedroom. I don’t believe sex should be limited to the bed. There’s a whole house – make good use of it. Couch, living room, hallway, bathroom, wherever. It’s easy, free, and you don’t have to worry about figuring out how to use something exotic that you found at a random porn shop.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Are you always using the same positions?

If so, change that up right away! 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

@claireos:  HAHA this was going to be my suggestion! 

Sometimes just a change of scenery is enough, but something new and sexy to wear wouldn’t hurt either.  Toys are ok, but if you’ve never really tried them before it might be a little overwhelming.  Maybe start with something simple like a naughty board game or a set of sexy dice. 

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper

I agree with @claireos:  get out of the bedroom, heck, get out of the house!

Also, dressing up can be fun beyond lingerie.  Think slutty hallowe’en costumes, haha.  Ask him if he has any fantasies (or figure out if you do) and see if you can base something around that!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@axeyourmakeupkit:  +1

I have an app on my iPhone called “iKamasutra” that lists a bunch of different positions and categorizes them by type. It’s really fun! You can keep a “to do” list, check them off after you try them, see “position of the day” or simply shake your phone to see which one randomly comes up!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Great game here… Never have I ever… there are apps for it and if one floats your fancy turn it into a sex game instead of a drinking game. Instead of a shot figure out a way to make it happen!

Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@claireos:  my thoughts exactly.

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