Post # 1
I was reading another thread and a commenter asked a question to determine if kids weren’t allowed at a wedding because the venue doesn’t allow them, or because it’s a child free wedding. Are there actual child free venues? Like a bar or vineyard, maybe? I just can’t imagine any place I’ve been to not allowing kids so long as the event is in a private room and kids aren’t exposed to a normal Saturday night bar scene.
I have seen a few invitations that have said “No children, due to the nature of the venue” but always assumed that was just a way of saying no children. I personally prefer no-kid weddings, but in our wedding venue researching I never heard of a venue that didn’t allow children and that just seems like a weird business decision.
Post # 2
Yes, there is absolutely such a thing. I don’t think they’re super common, but they do exist.
Post # 4
bear123 : We rented out a bar/restaurant for our reception so no kids allowed, or anyone under 21. So if someone were getting married or having their reception at a venue that doubles as a bar then there wouldn’t be kids allowed.
Post # 5
Restaurants that have bars allow children. Hell, bars allow children. If food is served, children can be there. They won’t serve them alcohol, but the children are allowed to be in there accompanied by an adult. Every vineyard I’ve visited has allowed children. There may be areas they aren’t allowed like a tasting room, but that may not even be true for a private event if the space is being rented but not necessarily operated like it normally is during regular business hours.
For the most part, I think people make the decision for themselves that something is not “kid-friendly”and use that as an excuse or assume a parent isn’t capable of parenting their child. While there may be a handful of venues 21+ only (and even then for a private event that restriction may not even be necessary) or maybe some states or countries with a curfew (like no kids under 16 in a bar after 9pm), it is actually pretty hard to legally ban an entire classification of people from your premises. Like pretty much nightclubs and casinos and bars that don’t serve food. There can be restrictions like no unaccompanied minors, like most casinos I know still allow accompanied minors if necessary to walk through the casino to get to other things – like a hotel check-in or a restaurant in the casino.
Post # 6
annabananabee : The bar/restaurant that I had my reception at did not allow kids, so you’re not 100% accurate there.
Post # 7
I wouldn’t be surprised if there weren’t some museum/gallery type venues that don’t allow children for private events.
And possibly some venues if they believe there’s a possible safety issue? I’m hard pressed to think of one at the moment, but I know I’ve been to a few places in the past that had a minimum age for safety/liability.
Bars, that may be something that varies by state. My state, for example, distinguishes between a stand alone bar and a bar attached to a restaurant.
Post # 8
Country/social clubs around here are 18/19+. Adult only resorts (destination wedding).
We also have several high end restaurants that are 21 or 25+ (odd for canada where age of majority is 18/19).
Post # 9
Resorts and art galleries come to mind.
I’ve also seen a wedding in an “herb” shop. Which actually means occult shop, there are tons of breakables, antiques, delicate little things, that may cost your parents $4000 if you were to be a rampaging toddler. There’s also a oujia board there that has a circle of salt around it, so if one’s child were particularly shitty, Captain Howdy might even follow you home 😂
Post # 10
I got married & had my reception at a bar/restaurant. Children were allowed- my daughter from my first marriage was there. I’m sure children in bars varies by state law though.
Post # 11
annabananabee : That was my thought. I can’t think of a bar near me that would tell a couple spending their event minimum that children aren’t allowed.
Post # 12
annabananabee : Casino’s here in Australia do not allow anyone under 18 in. So if the restaurant is inside the actual casino then kids by default are not allowed. However here most restaurants surround the casino so it is two separate areas.
bear123 : There are a few restaurants, pubs and bars here that have banned kids. Kids are not a protected class so it is entirely legal to ban them from your establishment, whether that makes economic sense is another thing. Here the establishment has the right to refuse service as long as it doesn’t contravene discrimination or anti-vilification laws (so no banning gays, muslims, blacks, disabled etc).
Post # 13
j_jaye : I’m a lawyer, so I understand that places legally can do it, I’ve just never heard of a venue doing so. We did an extensive venue search for our rehearsal dinner and reception, including restaurants, bars, country clubs, hotels, etc. of all kinds, and didn’t encounter this. I have no complaints as we had an adults-only wedding, but am still surprised to learn that venues actually do it.
Post # 14
Every vineyard venue I looked at allowed kids.
Post # 15
Different countries have different rules on this. There are definitely pubs and private members clubs here in the UK that are strictly 18+. For a lot of these venues their no children policies are a selling point for their target audience. A pub that serves food can have minors on site, but often you will see them asking for them to leave by 7pm.
Licensing laws here are strict so if a place serving alcohol is 18+ then it is 18+. That said, most wedding reception venues in the UK are also licensed to hold civil weddings (here the premises must be licensed) and as part or that process they need to be accessable to all so you wouldn’t find somewhere that could legally hold the ceremony that is 18+.