(Closed) Spin off. Do you care if a friend copies you?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Do you care a friend copies you?
    No, its silly everyone copies everyone : (44 votes)
    51 %
    Yes I care and would be bothered by this : (34 votes)
    40 %
    Undecided : (8 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    3142 posts
    Sugar bee

    I hate it. Back off and get your own ideas please.

    I don’t have to deal with this that much as my best gfs are all in totally different life phases (still in to bars and partying and no where near marriage) than I am.

    But I would hate it even in HS when my friends would mimic my dressing style.

     

    Post # 4
    Member
    713 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I would be pretty upset if someone obviously copied an idea without talking to me about it. Especially doing invitations almost exactly the same!!

    But it would depend on the person and the thing they were copying. It always amazes me when people copy things without asking the originator first. Like if a friend asked me if they could copy something – I’d probably be alright with it and take it as a compliment. But to go as far as denying it is pretty silly.

    Post # 5
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    3222 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I think an exact copy is unfair. There are ways to make it your own. We almost didn’t get a fauxtobooth because friends of ours did one. But Fiance asked permission from them and they were flattered we wanted one too. 

    I think the invitation thing is crossing the line. For example: I did embossed bride and groom stamp on the back of the invitation envelope, and if someone did that exact same thing I would be pretty irritated.

    But there are other places where I think it’s okay. For example: one of my BMs just got engaged, and she is using the same type of rentals that we’re using. I don’t care 🙂 I think she has good taste! 😉

    Post # 6
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    201 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Copying is annoying, but nothing to breakdown over. There is a girl who is semi a friend of mine that is a year younger and lives in the same small town. She does her hair like mine, bought the same boots I have, bought this blinged out necklace I got for my bday and wore out a lot, and yeah…. its irritating. Esp when she told my bff “oh melissa has these right? they are so cute!” I’ve seriously had 3 diff people come up to me and say “so and so tries to be just like you, huh?”

    Never experienced this w wedding stuff however. Weddings in this town are NOTHING like I see on the bee, so I am so excited to do everything I have planned. If a friend copied something of mine, and her wedding was BEFORE mine I. WOULD. BE. PISSED.

    Post # 7
    Member
    7587 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    it doesn’t bother me at all and I think I would find it flattering. However, one of my cousins copied my sisters entire wedding (venue, colors, even the dress!) abotu 2 years after she got married and that was super weird.

    Post # 8
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    345 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    To a point, all weddings have very similar elements. I don’t think it’s worth the time or energy to get worked up over someone else “copying” your style.

    Post # 9
    Member
    955 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    It wouldn’t bother me.

     

    Post # 10
    Member
    5797 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    The exact scenario you’re describing I would not care one bit about. I think I would be annoyed if someone copied multiple things from my wedding to achieve the same look but even then I’d get over it quickly. I try not to waste my time being upset about things I can’t change.

    Post # 11
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    3788 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    It depends on what it is.

    As a twin, I can be sensitive when people try to compare me or set up a competition between myself and others. I hate that. So if it is something that would result in one person being deemed better, then I do not want copies. So, for example, if both myself and a friend wore lace A-line dresses, I wouldn’t really care because things are similar but not the same. If my friend went out and bought the exact same dress by the same designer, I’d be uncomfortable because obviously people will then compare who wore it better. If it’s something fairly inconsequential like invitations, I really wouldn’t care.

    Also, getting angry with friends over vague concepts like copying someone’s “style” is just silly (and slightly narcissistic). It sounds like the plot of a tween movie. That’s why we all get inspiration from blogs like this anyway; we’re all copying in some form. Nothing is original, seriously.

    Post # 12
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    1667 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I’m not really sure how to vote. On the one hand, if someone EXACTLY copied me I would be pretty annoyed that they didn’t use two brain cells to come up with something on their own, even after I worked hard to have something unique and special.

    On the other hand, if it is similar, but not exact, it wouldn’t bother me as much if they took my idea but made it their own. That is essentially what we do all the time in “wedding blog world”, and that is fine to me.

    Post # 13
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    3866 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @Oneeleven: completely agree.

    Why can’t people do their OWN thing and NOT COPY?!?!?  There’s so many choices and options to personalize their stuff.  

    This is one reason why I LOOOOVE being an artist.  I can create my OWN designs that are unique to only us that no one can copy and, if they do, it’ll be blatently OBVIOUS and they won’t have an reason other than “well, it’s pretty”.  

    I also have to deal with this kind of thing with my SIL.  Anything she sees that I have and likes, she wants and HAS to copy.  She does the same with EVERYONE around her.  Annoying? YES!  Do I want to look at her and say “stop being a damn copycat and be original for once in your life!” OH YES, MOST DEFINITELY!!!!!   (I’d also be the one to say that if she EVER tried copying me in a very blatent fashion….)

    Everyone else in my life, thankfully, are completely different in taste and style.  There’s only ONE person who I’d even have to think about doing this and, fortunately, she doesn’t have access to anything she could really copy.  Plus I doubt her bf would allow her to copy us!

    Post # 14
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    2116 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I don’t think I’d be *mad* but I would know they were copying and be a little ticked off that they made my unique idea look common. For example, I used vintage stamps- totally done by bees, not done by most of the world (I’ve never seen them), if my cousin who gets married in August does this, I’ll be really WTF’ed.. luckily, knowing my family they’d just make fun of her for copy catting.

    Post # 15
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    2116 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I don’t think I’d be *mad* but I would know they were copying and be a little ticked off that they made my unique idea look common. For example, I used vintage stamps- totally done by bees, not done by most of the world (I’ve never seen them), if my cousin who gets married in August does this, I’ll be really WTF’ed.. luckily, knowing my family they’d just make fun of her for copy catting.

    Post # 16
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    883 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I put silly, but it depends on the friend and the extent and the time when it was sent.

    I would get frusterated (putting it mildly) if they took my invitations and sent them out a week before me to nearly all the same people.

    I wouldn’t mind if I sent out my invites, a friend loved them and asked me how to do it, they put them in their own colors and tweaked it to their event but it still looked similar to mine. 

    It is all about how the situation goes down IMO. 

    And the same goes for most other wedding elements. I would also be more annoyed if it were something I came up with myself vs something that was fairly common. 

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