Post # 1
Spin off of the ‘Do you judge people with small rings?’ thread, as a couple of posters on there said they judge people with big rings, but not those with small rings, and I thought it’d be interesting to compare the results, and see who gets judged more.
So, do you judge people with big rings? I’ve kept the options the same as those in the first thread.
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2013 - Ontario, Canada
I don’t but I have a large stone myself (2.5ct solitaire) so I know there can be many different reasons behind having one (like a family stone, or maybe it’s just what the couple prioritise and have a really simple wedding instead).
I have people notice mine from time to time and I have had a few judgemental comments but at the end of the day, there are always going to be someone who wants to be snarky whatever size ring you have. I LOOOVE my ring and what it represents and at the end of the day that is all that matters.
Post # 4
I don’t judge anyone for their ring. I just notice she’s married/engaged think “aw that’s nice!” and “ooooh pretty sparkles!” and move on!
Plus, although many of us here on the Bee have helped our SO pick out the ring, I feel that the majority of women have no (or limited) say in what they’re getting. It’s totally not fair to judge a woman by something she may not have even chosen!
Post # 5
I am fully against consumerism – so yes…I admit it.
I know I will get flamed – but it’s true.
Post # 6
I don’t judge anyone for their rings. Period. Diamond, moissanite, coloured gemstone, natural, lab-created, big, small – it’s a personal preference that has no real impact on me whatsoever.
Post # 7
I don’t judge a big ring if I don’t see any weird red flags. I know lots of people with big rings for a variety of reasons.
BUT I do judge women if they are wearing huge stones but don’t seem to have their shit together. My ex’s mom got married while we were together, and she had a massive ring but was on the verge of declaring bankruptcy, was defaulting on her mortgage, car payments, bills, etc and still going on multiple tropical vacations per year. I judge people like that.
Post # 8
I don’t judge anyone’s ring or even really notice unless they have a unique ring. I’m much more enchanted with an Edwardian setting than a 3 carat solitaire. It’s just personal tastes. But I don’t judge someone’s socioeconomic status based on ring (or car or house), mostly because the people I know with the most money tend to live pretty normally…which is probably why their millionaires 😛 Not to mention, you can finance pretty much anything. So I don’t consider it an indication of anything.
Post # 9
I also don’t judge gemstone engagement rings. I’ve seen some flat out stunning ones, including a particularly memorable aquamarine set in diamonds. *swoons*
Post # 11
I actually really don’t. When someone has a large ring I usually admire it and am complimentary of it. I grew up in an environment where I was sort of taught that bigger is better when it comes to jewelry, and I know a lot of women who aren’t wealthy but take pride in their large stone jewelry collections.
Post # 12
@Miss Circe: +1
No, because it’s not very nice. I can certainly admit to being a frigid bitch at times, but not about something so sentimental as an engagement ring. Mine is a black diamond, and I’m sure I’ll get lots of side-eyes…but I promise no one will say anything to me directly.
Post # 13
I don’t judge large rings. I love/prefer them!! I would say that I see more negativity geared towards large than small on this forum.
Post # 14
I was just noticing this about myself last week. I saw a woman with a gorgeous quite large stone and automatically assumed she had money. She was in her 50s or 60s. I work in a position where I’m privy to her financial status, at least with my company, and I was really surprised when I saw that she didn’t have that much money. I realized she could’ve had tons of money elsewhere but it made me realize that I AM someone who when I notice a large flashy stone, I definitely assume someone has money.
I completely acknowledged that it could’ve been an heirloom or that maybe they did have money at one point in their lives (if they didn’t now…again, I don’t get the full picture). But yea, I assume you have money if you have a big stone. Most people like that about big stones though, they want others to think they’re elite or well off at the very least.
ETA: I don’t judge them as a PERSON though…I’m not sure if that’s what is meant by this thread. I think nothing about them as a person….your ring doesn’t define you. I just assume wealth lol
Post # 15
I judge people who lie about their rings… Like some threads about the 4Cs someone with perfect stats says my ring “has a big visible inclusion and all I can see is this black line” after the just posted their ring has a clarity of VVS1. Why lie about a ring??? It isn’t that serious!
Post # 16
Nope, don’t care enough to judge.