(Closed) Spin-off: Do you tip the bartender at a wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Do you tip the bartender at weddings
    Yes, I usually/always tip. : (51 votes)
    56 %
    No, I rarely/never tip. : (15 votes)
    16 %
    I only tip at open bars. : (3 votes)
    3 %
    I only tip at cash bars. : (22 votes)
    24 %
  • Post # 3
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    679 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I always tip the bartender at weddings.  I have never been to a cash bar wedding (it’s just not done here).  I do not tip every single time I visit the bar, but definitely the first few times.

    Post # 4
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    3175 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I will tip if there’s a tip jar, because that generally means the bartender has accepted a lower payrate in exchange for putting out a tip jar. Otherwise, no, I probably wouldn’t tip unless I felt that the bartender went out of his/her way for me and/or did an exceptional job.

    Post # 5
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    1798 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I don’t as I’ve always assumed that’s the couple’s responsibility. Generally at the weddings I’ve attended, bartenders don’t even have tip jars set up. At my wedding, I tipped the bartender and made sure they didn’t put out a tip jar so my guests didn’t feel obligated to tip.

    Post # 6
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    84 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I’m shocked to hear that people don’t tip! If someone is serving me, wedding or not, I always tip. At weddings, however, I usually drop a lump sum in the beginning of the night so I don’t have to keep digging for money.

    Post # 7
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    1652 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    I do, no matter whether it’s a cash bar or hosted bar – even if there’s no jar, I’ll probably leave a dollar on the bar unless they specifically say they can’t accept tips.  I can cough up a dollar per drink, and even if they end up getting tipped by the host after the wedding, so be it, they have some extra cash.

    Post # 8
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    3265 posts
    Sugar bee

    At a hosted bar the tips should be covered by the hosts, rather then the guests, otherwise it amount to the same as charging your guests.  The tipping is a part of hosting.

     

    Post # 9
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    5984 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1999

    I don’t tip at open bars because I figure that the bride/groom are paying for the service.  However, if there was a tip jar, I would definitely tip. 

    Post # 10
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    2725 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I don’t tip because I thought usually the bride and groom tip at the end of the night.  Technically they are providing the service to the bride and groom. 

    Post # 11
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    9824 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I ALWAYS offer a tip, but I have been to a few events where the bartender has said “Not necessary, it’s covered. But thanks!” I do offer though, yes. Kind of like how for example some Starbucks gladly accept tips for drinks, but then others (like the ones inside Target stores) can’t accept them. It depends.

    Post # 12
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    190 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I always offer a tip – it’s up to the bartender whether or not to accept.

    Post # 13
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    4887 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    For open bars we typically tip $20 with our very first round to make sure we get attention as the night goes on 😉

    If it’s a cash bar, we’d tip every single drink we got.

    Post # 14
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    1446 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I used to bartend at weddings and I was always paid hourly (I was hired through the bartending school I attended). However, it was very common for people to tip in addition to that. I say if there’s a tip jar, then tip. If not, don’t worry about it.

    Post # 15
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    5494 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I tip only at a cash bar because I assume the bride and groom have not taken care of the tip.  If it’s an open bar, it’s pressumed that the hosts have covered the tip themselves so I dont’ tip.

    Post # 16
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    1271 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I always tip, but have had tips refused at some weddings (but not all). 

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