(Closed) *spin off* "engaged…already?!?!"

posted 5 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

What is insanely fast? (just curious!)

Darling Husband and I didn’t get told it was too soon, we’d been together for 5 years, but I did get told I was too young and naive. I was 19 and Darling Husband was 24. We’ve been married almost 3 years now and still going strong so people can go suck it!

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@Little_Hedgy:  my parents started dating in November and was married in March the next year… they just celebrated their 37th anniversary. I think when you know it’s right, it’s right. πŸ™‚

 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Little_Hedgy:  Fiance and I dated for nearly 5 years before getting engaged last Nov and one large social circle we were part of were so negative. Saying “what’s the rush?” And “you’re so young though!”. We’re 25…didn’t realise that was that young! After various things occurred, we decided we had just outgrown that group, and don’t spend time with them anymore. 

@dannielle89:  Good on you πŸ™‚ my brother got married at 19 and they just happily celebrated their 10th anniversary. 

I’ve discovered a lot people saying really silly things in regards to getting married and weddings…oh well πŸ™‚

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Yeah I got a few of those comments from friends when I got engaged to my Fiance after a year and a half of dating.  We didn’t get any “why so young” comments though – which is good as I’m 27 and he’s in his 30s.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

@Little_Hedgy:  Not me! I’ll be one of those “it’s about time” girls. I have to say, I think “engaged already” is way less supportive and rude. I don’t think “it’s about time” is necessarily a bad thing (could mean “we approve of your relationship and have been eagerly awaiting the proposal”), so I don’t get why some of the other girls are complaining.

 

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

My fiancé and I will both be 23 when we get married in May of next year. Nobody except my father have told us that “we’re too young” or “maybe we should wait”. We’ve been living together since we’ve been dating for six months and next month will be two years together. Maybe we’re moving too fast but I love him and that’s all that matters πŸ™‚ 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I got that reaction from my sister after we got engaged. But we had been together for 2.5 years. So don’t worry too much about it. Some people will think it’s early whether it’s 6 months or 10 years!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

@Little_Hedgy:  We got engaged after 3 months. We also starting living together around that time.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We were engaged 3 months after we met, 2 months after we started dating.  Married 8 months later.  

No one was the least bit surprised that we were engaged – he’d met my whole family within the first 2 months (and they all live several hours away).  

We were 37 and 40 though, so I think that made a big difference.  Also, everyone knows me to be a very decisive person πŸ™‚

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

We’ll be one of the “it’s about time” couples for sure.  We’ve been together for over 3 and a half years, bought a home together over two years ago, have 2 dogs etc.  We’re already getting the “what’s taking so long” comments and “when are you going to tell us the happy news” etc. at all family events.  People have actually started moving on from asking about when we’re going to get engaged to when we’re going to start a family since we’re both 30 which just makes me laugh! 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Generally, we have gotten neither the “already?!” nor the “it’s about time!” since we’re both in our 30s and got engaged on our 2 year dating anniversary.  The only kind of crappy comment we received was from one of FI’s friends, in response to our changed relationship status on FB.  This is roughly what she said, and it almost approaches the “already?!” mentality:

When the hell did this happen? Happy for you guys, just didn’t know you were going there!”

Pretty irked by that.  I’m not sure where she thought we were going…

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I am lucky enough to get both responses! I am from a small farming community where the vast majority of people get married and start families right after high school. Pretty much everyone in my graduating class is married and about half have kids. So my family was starting to get antsy that I would never settle down (at the old age of 24 lol). Fiance is from a well-educated urban environment. He doesn’t have any married friends, and most of his family members married around 30. Some of his cousins are dating women that they have fathered children with, but still don’t feel ready to marry. For him to be engaged at 23 they all found outrageous lol. So I got lots of stress from both sides.

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