llevinso: I completely and utterly 100% agree with this. I’ve never even seen any of my close friends deal with infidelity, so it’s the last place my mind goes if something ‘weird’ ever happens with Darling Husband. I think I’ve been more sensitive to things I didn’t notice before (like Darling Husband being weird with his phone sometimes) since I’ve started reading so much on the bee, which kind of backs up your point.
hokie2wildcat: Wow, it sounds like you’ve had some tough experiences but have a really great attitude/outlook about it all. We all know there’s a possibility that something could happen on a business trip or what not, but I can only imagine that once that possibility turns into a reality, it’s very hard to feel comfortable with those scenarios again. Why do a few a**holes have to ruin it for the rest of us!?
socalgirl1689: 🙁 Yep.
futuremrsc2016: That sounds like an incredibly hard situation to have gone through. I can’t imagine how extra hard it must have been to move on without any closure, and can understand why after having your whole world turned upside down so suddenly, you’d be anxious about that possibility again. Fingers crossed it is all part of the master plan to get you where you deserve to be.
musicluvr325: Emotional cheating is such a tricky situation. I can see how it could almost creep up on you, because those sort of relationships build so gradually and it’s hard to pick an exact moment where they become inappropriate. I hope your experience has at least helped you in your future relationships. Thanks for sharing!
MelissainNC: Really good points. Although both are awful betrayals, I think there is a big difference between a one night stand and an ongoing affair (in terms of the feelings, intentions, logistics, and level of deception). It seems likely that many many of the former type of infidelity are never known about.
801wife: Let’s all take a moment to pray those two never procreate, or the world will be doomed. What truly awful people. Sorry you went through that.
gingerkitty: Yeah, I totally get that it’s generally acceptable these days to be dating or hooking up with several people at one time, so long as you pick one relationship to move forward with in a more serious way, but I don’t think I’m really wired that way. I either like someone and want to be spending my free time with them, or there’s no spark. It’s tough though, because you don’t want to be the ‘prude’ who wants to sit down and define your dating boundaries right away!