(Closed) Spin off: have you ever been the "other woman?"

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Have you ever been the "other woman?"
    Yes : (245 votes)
    47 %
    No : (279 votes)
    53 %
  • Post # 3
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    4528 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    Not as far as I know. 

    Post # 4
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    3170 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Yes, I have been the other woman. And now i’m married to him. Laughing

    Not proud of what I did though. Not at all.

    Post # 5
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    3281 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    FI and I met in high school, it was a small school of 180 people so not many options lol But I was dating someone and so was he when we first started seeing each other. So we eventually broke up with our bf/gfs and have been together ever since! 

    Post # 7
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    3170 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @MrsPanda99:  I totally get what you are saying but as a religious woman, I did do something that I shouldn’t have. But it is what it is and I’ve learned my lesson.

    The up side to that whole experience is that I now know exactly what signs to look for if my husband ever decides to be unfaithful.Not that he would, I am 18 years younger than him. That would just be silly.

    Post # 8
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    4528 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    @MrsPanda99:  I agree in the sense that I’d be way angrier at FH than the other woman. He promised me faithfulness, not her. But, I wouldn’t mind slapping the bitch either

    Post # 9
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    4525 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @MrsPanda99:  Question before I respond: who does this apply to? Married men? Engaged men? Clearly-taken men?

    What if the person was only dating someone else casually and it was not an exclusive relationship?

    Post # 10
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    495 posts
    Helper bee

    Yeah, but when I found out what was going on I dropped him faster than he could blink. I don’t cheat and I certainly don’t help others do it; I was under the impression he was single.

    But his girlfriend certainly never believed that I didn’t know what was going on, and she made my life heck for a little while. I can’t completely blame her for being suspicious, but that doesn’t mean I have to like her.

    Post # 12
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    4525 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @MrsPanda99:  Well, boo. Then I guess I don’t have a horse in this race 🙂

    Post # 13
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    7272 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @MrsPanda99:  I didn’t vote because, while I was the other woman I didn’t KNOW it. 

    I met a guy on a dating site, we dated for 8 months non-exclusively. I asked him early on if he was dating anyone else (or married… or otherwise taken) and he said no. Throughout the relationship, I was honest about dating but not sleeping with anyone else, and asked that he do the same. He said he was not dating anyone else but was fine with me doing it. In retrospect, that should have been a red flag, but he was 12 years older, so I just thought he was open-minded. It wasn’t until a couple months after we stopped seeing each other that I discovered his myspace page and saw that he’d been with his “exclusive” girlfriend for almost a decade! They were together while we were dating and after. I felt AWEFUL. 

    Post # 14
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    1880 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Never been the other woman but I have been cheated on and the other woman was a so-called friend.  So yeah, my anger should’ve been just towards the ex but I couldn’t help but feel that she had betrayed me too.  I wished syhpillis on them both for a very long time.

    I also can’t STAND the idea that the woman that went after the married man, now knows what signs to look for if her man ever cheats.  Like really?  SMH.

    Post # 16
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    817 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @MrsPanda99:  Yikes, no way. I don’t judge women who have been in this situation, just because I think there are shades of gray, but I couldn’t feel good about myself if I did it. If I can’t look at myself in the mirror and be happy with who I see, then I’m not going to do it.

    BTW – the ad on the side of my screen is for a TV show called Mistresses. Haha!

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