Post # 1
This is a spin off of the “Do you love or hate your in-laws?” post. I’m just curious how the meeting the inlaws went for you? Did you make a good impression? Did they feel one way about you at first then change their minds?
Post # 3
One day before Fiance even started dating and long before she and I had ever met, he had stopped by to see FMIL and she was canning some strawberry jam. He mentioned that strawberries were my favorite food so she gave him a jar to bring with him when he met up with me later on that evening. I thought it was very sweet and having been raised a good southern girl, I sent her a thank you card. Apparently that sealed the deal with her before we even met! (She really disliked his exgirlfriend and thought she had no manners whatsoever.) She started encouraging him to spend more time with me and eventually told him wanted us to be together. Although she and I have different opinions and views on some things, we get along wonderfully because she isn’t the least bit judgemental about anything that I may feel differently about. Even when Fiance and I went through a rough patch a year or so before becoming engaged, she told me she loved and supported me no matter what happened between Fiance and me.
My Future Father-In-Law had to warm up a bit. He and Future Mother-In-Law are divorced so our getting to know each other was a bit different. Future Father-In-Law loved FI’s exwife. Future Father-In-Law hated FI’s exgf that he dated after his divorce with whom he had just broken up with when I met him and the reason that we remained friends for a long time before dating. (His exgf is craaaazzaaay and apparently no one liked her!) So, whenever Fiance mentioned me to his dad, his dad had little to say and never really referred to me by my name. In hindsight, I think he was just skeptical because of FI’s choice in his exgf was not at all the type of person Fiance would typically seek out. Fiance and I went to church with him and his wife one Sunday so that I could meet everyone. They were both nice and poliet but his dad had little to say. Anyway, a couple of months later Fiance got sick and was in the hospital in pretty serious condition. Future Father-In-Law came and was a bit guarded at first. Within a couple of hours, he had warmed up and he’s been a fan of me ever since! While Fiance was recouporating, Future Father-In-Law called often to check on me and see if I needed anything. He told me how good he thought I was for his son and has happily embraced my son and me.
Future Step Mother In Law is a bit different, though. I have no idea what that woman thinks of me even now after all this time. She is always poliet but almost too poliet…to the point where I kind of feel like she’s saying and doing the things she knows she is supposed to say and do in order to be poliet but I’m not exactly sure how sincere it is. I don’t make a stink about it because it doesn’t really bother me since Fiance and her are not very close. I figure that so long as there is no drama, I’ll just let her warm up to me at her own pace.
Post # 4
I met my in-laws for the first time at a Charlotte Bobcats game. His dad had a suite through his company. My husband comes from a big family so it was his mom and his dad plus probably 8 of the 12 siblings…having so many people around really helped! there was not a ton of pressure to make conversation or anything like that because with that many people its hard to get a word in haha. It was a great time but probably not the best environment to “get to know” someone.
ETA: My sister worked with my husband at his dads company – my sister is a ton of fun but a bit loud and has no filter. i think his father was mortified when we started dating…haha but me and her couldnt be more different.
Post # 5
I got drunk with my Mother-In-Law and step Mother-In-Law, so it was all good. I actually had my first date with DH with the ILs, it was a blast and they have loved me ever since.
Post # 7
I agree! That’s awesome!
Even though it wasn’t the best way to get to know one another, it sounds like it was a good way to sort of ease into it!
Post # 8
Mine was about a month after we started going out. We were both living at home saving up for a deposit on a house and after a month of spending most of our nights together at my mum’s house we went to a club night near him and spent the night at his house.
I’d never been introduced to anyone’s parents before, much less after a filthy night, and I was terrified. Basically I was just coaxed down to breakfast and given an enormous fry-up. They’re not great chatters but weren’t unfriendly. I still call them Mr and Mrs (His-Surname) a lot of the time or by their forenames. I can’t get into the habit of calling them “mum and dad”.
Post # 9
I met my in-laws on Labor Day several years ago for the first time. We had a cook-out, went boating on the lake, and enjoyed a few drinks. It was so relaxed, and afterwards, my DH told me that he hadn’t ever brought anyone “home” to meet his parents. 🙂
Post # 10
I met SO’s parents in a kinda odd way. I was going to a wedding with him when we first started dating but spent the weekend with him and friends about a half hour away. The friends had to work….so I had to get ready at his parents house. AWKWARD!!! I have more appendages than words spoken that day lol. They’re great though
Post # 11
I met my IL’s for the first time at my BIL’s college graduation party. DH and I had been dating for a few months at this point. DH got drunk and sprayed bug spray in my eyes. There were a ton of mosquitoes and he was just trying to help but in his drunken state, he didn’t realize that bug spraying someones face probably wasn’t the brightest idea. If you’ve never had the pleasure of having bug spray in your eyes, consider yourself lucky! A little while later, he and his brother started drunk wrestling. They were screwing around and my Father-In-Law wanted them to stop so he picked up a huge tub of ice (which housed the keg minutes earlier). Just as he let go to throw it on DH and my Brother-In-Law, DH pulled me infront of him and my Father-In-Law soaked me with a bucket of ice. DH and my Brother-In-Law were literally rolling on the ground laughing. My Mother-In-Law was absolutely mortified and apologized for days. Even after that, I still married him (6.5 years later)! lol I’ll get him back for it someday… when he least expects it!
Post # 12
My Fiance invited me over to his parents house to meet them over labor day weekend. What he didn’t tell me was that his ENTIRE family would be there – his four siblings, their husbands/wives and his neice and nephews. I walked in expecting to meet two new people – instead I met 13. I turned bright red and was really nervous, but everyone was really nice and the kids liked me a lot – so that helped.
Post # 13
I used to bartend at the Chili’s back in the day and Fiance brought his mom up to my job for drinks one night with out even warning me! He told me he had a surprise for me…i thought it would be flowers or something….nope it was his mom. I was so nervous! i felt like she was eyeing me the entire night. i swear i dropped like 12 drinks!
The Good thing is is that my fMIL loves a good glass of wine so i gave her own private wine tasting that night and treated her to a bottle of my favorite moscato. That was def the way to her heart. We dont always see eye to eye….but i love the mess out of that woman and i know she loves me so its all good!
Post # 14
I actually met mine at two separate times. I went to dinner with Fiance, Future Sister-In-Law, and Future Mother-In-Law. Future Sister-In-Law and I had been friends in high school but it was the first time I met Future Mother-In-Law. A couple weeks later, we had dinner with Future Father-In-Law. They’re still together, we just couldn’t figure out a good time so I met them separately. Both were fun though 🙂
Post # 16
OKAY this is probably the weirdest way. My boyfriend’s grandfather passed away and we had been dating for 4 months. I met his parent’s at the funeral 🙁