(Closed) **Spin Off** How did you meet your future inlaws?? Was it good or bad?

posted 9 years ago in Family
Post # 32
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I met everyone for the first time all at once!  Fiance brought me to Thanksgiving (approx 30 family members).  I’m lucky – everyone in his family is great and his parents have been wonderful to me since day one.

Post # 33
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I second the ‘met everyone all at once’. It was overwhelming and probably not the best idea. I was running a show my DH was in, at that time boyfriend, and I met them afterwards when they came down to see it. 

I didn’t NOT like them at first, I actually tried pretty hard to give it a chance but besides a shallow hello everyone talked over me and it remains that they have no idea who I am as a person today. 😛 If only I cared anymore… lol I think our meeting set up an important fact of life for them, they’ll do anything to look good in public but most everyone else find them oddly closed off and closed minded about anything new. 

Post # 34
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I met my inlaws before my hubby and I were even interested in one another. His sister is my friend and I drove from college, had church with them, and came home to have ice cream sundae’s with them… they were nice. They are now my awesome inlaws whom I love… I call them  mother and father ****. Too close to be inlaws.

Post # 35
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5653 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

I met my inlaws when my Fiance and I first started dating, within the first few months. We hit it off right away for the most part, except FI’s sister didn’t like me much at first (she said she thought I was a “gold digger”, and I’m really not sure how she got that impression… frankly I think she just didn’t like me being around at first lol). Anyway she’s one of my BMs now and she’s super awesome! 🙂

Post # 36
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I went over to his parents’ place to meet them for the first time. I thought it was awkward but not awful. His parents didn’t really have anything to talk about and his mom kept making us watch clips of things she recorded on the DVR. 

3 years later, my Fiance has made them stop showing us clips of everything his mom watches and they still have nothing to say. 

Post # 37
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Bumble bee

I met the majority of the in-laws at DH’s cousin’s wedding.  I had my eyebrow pierced at the time, and most of his family is a bit conservative, so I was warned that I might get some flack about it, especially from a particular uncle.  Got absolutely none.  The whole family was great to me and still are!  I think I made a good impression on them, especially because Mother-In-Law said to me in the buffet line that her son knows how to pick ’em.  My Mother-In-Law sent flowers to work for me with a card that said, “So glad you’re a part of the family!”.

Post # 38
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I met Danny’s mother about a month after we began dating. His family is all in Virginia and mine are all in New York, we lived in NY at the time so we drove down to meet his mother and two sisters. I was VERY NERVOUS because I knew his family was a bit more conservative and I’m unintentionally kind of loud and obnoxious, and I don’t look like anything they’ve really seen before. (they live out in the country, at the time Danny didn’t have any tattoos and only 1 visable piercing which his mother HATED. At the time I was a piercer, I had done the hated piercing on him, ha.)…I kept asking him how I should act, and he kept saying “like yourself.” so that’s exactly what I did. It went VERY WELL!! Even his grandmother gave me a huge hug and said what an “attractive young lady” I am. (she’s a bit senile and tends not to be the most complimentary person ever.) they were all super nice. 

About 2 years later I finally met his father, who also lives down here in VA. (again, at the time, we lived in NY.) I was super nervous yet again. Even more so because Danny’s father has a nice house and a nice job, and is pretty upper class and I am…not. Lol. I was also nervous because Danny’s dad had wanted him to move back down to VA with him, and Danny was supposed to right before we first started dating, but then we got together and he moved in with me instead. His dad wasn’t happy with the change of plans. So I was really sweating about this one…but again they loved me! His dad commented on how I’m the only one to ever “get Danny’s ass in gear” and his stepmother said I was “hilarious.” and reminded her of a friend she had a long time ago who had died in a car crash. She said it was a high compliment. 

So yeah! It went great! Danny’s ALL pierced up and tattooed now and his parents make jokes, but they don’t actually seem to care. We get along well! 

Post # 39
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Dandelion D:  My Fiance ambushed me when meeting his parets.  He thought it was best to catch me off guard so I would stress about it.  We were on our way home back from a trip and instead of taking me back to my house, he drove to HIS house and told me that I’ll be meeting his parents.

I don’t think I made the best impression and I think they had some reservations about me since I was from a different culture.  In the end, it all worked out and they like me now.

Post # 40
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Bumble bee

We had only gone on like 4 dates when he asked me to come to his hometown and go out with friends.  It turned into meeting his entire friends and family that weekend. 

I was very low key and we got along well. I was thrown for a loop though i didnt expect to meet them!

Post # 41
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I met my Future Father-In-Law first when I randomly stopped by FI’s parent’s house to pick him up for dinner. I think I just said introduced myself and moved on… But I finally met his full family for Easter. His parents usually throw a huge party for the holiday, so I met ALL of his family in one day.

To be honest, I’m in love with his family. They are warm and inviting. We hang out with his cousins and brother ALL of the time.

His mom can be a little “much” sometimes, but I can see us getting along pretty well in the future. We do not have a one-on-one relationship where we go shopping or out to dinner together, though I’d like to establish one in the future. Hopefully the wedding will bring us together.

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