Post # 1
The thread about cohabitating got me wondering. How open are you with your parents about intimacy (and they with you)?
My mum told me most of the basics about sex when I asked and, while I wouldn’t give her details of girth, length and orgasms, both my parents know that my fiance and I are sexually active (and how we met, which was sexually related).
When I was single, my mum knew about my one night stands, flings and boyfriends.
I know about some of her flings and relationships before she and my dad got together and those since they split up.
I’ve sometimes known too much about my dad’s sex life (and/or lack of it) and stole condoms from him at times.
But the general tendency is to share but not overshare, if that makes sense.
What’s your family take on intimacy?
Post # 3
My parents know nothing about my sex life. It’s not taboo, it’s just none of their business! Vice-versa with me on their sex life… ew.
However, my FI’s parents are the very opposite, and there are no limits, on either end…
Post # 4
We don’t share anything. At all.
Post # 5
We are very very private. I assume my mom knows I am no longer a virgin 😉 but she could not tell you my number or when I lost my virginity. I know absolutely nothing about either of my parents sex lives and I don’t care to.
I have a cousin who talks to her mom about BJs and One Night Stands and that is just SO not the dynamic we have. We are very close but that topic is off limits.
Post # 6
Considering the fact that I have already had a child out of wedlock 13 years ago and am pregnant with my 2nd child….I don’t think anyone wonders if we are sexually active or not. And hello…if you are old enough to get married then you are old enough to have sex. Why it should even matter to your parents if you live together I do not know.
Post # 7
We’re very private with both sets of parents. It’s just none of their business, and I certainly don’t care to hear about their sex life… gross.
After Darling Husband finished boot camp, I went to see him with his parents, and because of finances, we had to share a hotel room. They took lots of “walks” and asked us to “call when you’re ready!” so it was pretty obvious I guess that we needed to make up for lost time when he was away. Awkward.
Post # 8
My parents are very prude. We don’t talk about it at all.
Post # 9
my parents are very open. when i had sex for the first time, my mother gave me a glass of red wine and told me i was a woman. LOL
Post # 10
I have an open relationship with my parents about sex. They never missed an oppurunity to talk to my brothers and I about it and what we needed to do if we were considering it. My mom enrolled us in every sex ed class given by our church while we were in the youth groups there. (sex ed by way of abstinence, but they were excellent sex ed classes).
Once my Fiance and I were established, my mom was the one asking if I had “given it up yet” (I wanted to wait) and after about a year of that, then asked when we were going to move in together. Yes, it was my parents idea to move in with my then Boyfriend or Best Friend. (They love him).
Now we talk about it fairly often. But I am still more of a private person, and my mom likes to say things to make me blush because she thinks its funny, but at the same time if I ever need advice (solicited or not) I know I could ask them.
Post # 10
My parents pretended for as long as possible that I was still a virgin (gotta love denial), and I’d be fine if they just kept on pretending for the rest of their lives. My sex life is none of their business.
Post # 11
I have a good relationship with my parents, but have zero interest in telling them about my sex life or hearing about theirs.
Post # 12
My family is pretty open, but my mom generally takes cues from my sisters and I on how comfortable we are sharing. For me, this means that she always knows the basics but doesn’t ask for details. For my loud-mouthed sister, this means my mom buying her a vibrator for her 21st birthday. 🙂
Post # 13
My mother is pretty open with me and I’m semi-open with her. FI and I constantly joke around with her. As for my grandmother, oh boy! Old school Italian Catholic. Don’t mess with her. Hahaha.
Post # 14
My mom still thinks I’m a virgin..so uh, yeah, we don’t talk about it. My dad knows and he just says, “Don’t get pregnant!” He raises my step-sisters 4 kids..long story.
His family is no holds barred..and they know. But they know that I’m on BC pills and not ready to be a mommy, so they’re relieved lol.
Post # 15
@LGenz: same as you except it’s that way with both sides. Don’t ask don’t tell. lol.
Although – my mom technically never had ‘the talk’ with me growing up and I was homeschooled so *technically* I should have known nothing about sex. I lived on a farm though, so you figure things out.
Made it darned awkward when she got me stuck in the car one day saying how I should be on bc right after Darling Husband and I started dating. Yeah, we waited 5 years til marriage so I think my mom figured we were doing things loooooooooong before we were.
All I could think was, what would she say if I’m like, ‘mom, what’s this sex thing you’re talking about’