Post # 1
From this thread: just curious how many people here knew BEFORE coming to the Bee the distinction of wedding invitation wording:
– “request the honor of your presence” means the ceremony is in a house of worship
– “request the pleasure of your company” means that the ceremony is elsewhere (or something like that)
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
I’ve just known for a long time… at least a decade. I have no idea whom I learned it from or when, but I’ve just known.
I also thinking requesting the “honor” of someone’s presence seems pretty formal and has a religious overtone.
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
I definitely didn’t know!
Post # 5
@mrsSonthebeach: I also thinking requesting the “honor” of someone’s presence seems pretty formal and has a religious overtone.
This never would have occurred to me. I’m not religious, and I haven’t gone to many weddings, but both wordings seem traditional/formal-ish to me, though I wouldn’t get religious overtones from either.
Post # 6
I’ve learned a lot from the Bee over the past few months!
Post # 7
I didn’t learn it from Weddingbee, but I did discover it during my wedding planning.
Post # 9
- Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo
I definitely knew before I was planning a wedding, but not sure where I heard it from. It’s entirely possible it’s because I spent most of my college years and early 20s reading wedding magazines with my girlfriends. 🙂
Post # 10
I’m glad I didn’t go either route…I probably would have ended up getting the wrong one
Post # 11
I actually knew this before the Bee, and I still chose the first option (“honor of your presence”). I like how formal it sounded, despite FH and I not being religious. I asked him which wording he preferred, and he chose the same.
I really think etiquette isn’t really stressed as much in this day and age where there are so many exceptions to virtually every wedding “rule”. And I hate to bust everyone’s bubbles, but all invitations end up in the trash at one point or another.
So yes, etiquette schmetiquette
Post # 12
I had never heard of that until just now. Weird.
Post # 13
I had no idea, and we’ve been on the bee for quite awhile…but I guess NOW I know and I did learn it from the bee haha thanks@vorpalette:
We also didn’t go either route…thankfully because we would have gotten it wrong.
Along the lines of getting things wrong, we have also changed how we address each of our mailings or whatever because we realize we did something wrong in the last round…e-party>save the dates>invitations 🙂 Again, thanks Weddingbee!