(Closed) Spin- off : Parents not disciplining kids. No manners.

posted 6 years ago in Parenting
  • poll: Would you say something to a parent in public if their child was out of control/rude?
    Yes! : (20 votes)
    9 %
    It really depends on how the child is acting : (88 votes)
    39 %
    No, I wouldnt say anything. Judgement stares would be coming their way though! : (86 votes)
    38 %
    No, it is not my business. : (23 votes)
    10 %
    other. Please explain below. : (7 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 77
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    984 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I catch the bus to and from work, and earlier this year I had some screaming brat wanted to get more sweets from their mum, and she said no, he couldn’t have any more until they got home. Cue screaming, stamping, and a tiny fist grabbing my hair and yanking a great handful of it right out of my head.

    I turn around, expecting a shocked apology from the parents – and I get a sarcastic look that’s pretty much ‘what the **** are you looking at?’ so I’m just sitting there with a bald patch in the back of my hair and trying not to cry.

    That’s a pretty extreme example, but even then I didn’t have the guts to say something. So, no. I judge like crazy and get pretty annoyed, but I just am too much of a wimp.

    Post # 78
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    561 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @Zhabeego:  I didn’t see a snotty attitude, or a request for a cookie. I’m a brand new parent, so I KNOW EVERYTHING (that was sarcasm). But I do know this – even before I squoze out the kid and was rewarded by PILES AND PILES OF COOKIES, I’d caveat all my parenting commentary with, “Of course, I’m an excellent parent since I don’t have kids.” Living it gives you a different perspective. Perspective. That’s all.

    But, you know…so what? I don’t have any actual accomplishments or fields of expertise that you’d care about, so why should you give a fig about another human’s experience or perspective?

    Post # 79
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    2598 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    @annifer:  Why should I care about another person’s experience or perspective when they discount or dismiss mine?  

    we all have different experiences and perspectives. This is not exclusive to parents and it is annoying and patronizing when they act as if their reality is more real or more important than everyone else’s.

    Post # 80
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    561 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @Zhabeego:  I’m sorry if it seemed like I dismissed your experiences. I didn’t intend to.

    And I know a lot of parents seem to play the “you don’t get to have an opinion because you don’t have kids” card.

    I don’t think that.

    Post # 81
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    2598 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    @annifer:  Oh, I wasn’t referring to you, just the poster who made the snotty, high handed comment about non-parents.

    Post # 83
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    1723 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 1998

    My cousin has been raising his girlfriend’s 4-year-old daughter. At her birthday party recently, she bit him. His response? “She bit me! Ow!” Nothing more. Then she stuffed her face with cake (this was at Chuck E. Cheese, BTW) and ran around the restaurant, letting it fall out of her mouth. She was also rubbing her frosting-covered mouth all over family members while her mother laughed like it was amazing. Bet the employees loved picking up slobber-covered cake off the floor.

    I picked up my stuff and left when that started.

     

    Post # 84
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    30 posts
    Newbee

    I don’t have kids, and I don’t want kids. Kids irk the crap out of me in public, but I don’t see myself ever trying to parent a child or chastising parents for not controlling their kid. That’s really out of line. If the child assaulted me, like in your example, I would have the store manager handle it or mall security.

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