(Closed) Spin-off post – is anyone's FI planning their wedding??

posted 5 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
Hostess
23620 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@BoxerLady:  My husband wasn’t exactly the kind who was into planning everything per se, but he was more of, let’s say, a backseat planner.  He wanted to have veto power to everything, so there were definitely days when I’d get frustrated and say “well, you plan it then!” πŸ˜›  DH is definitely a dreamer – he had a whole vision of what kind of venue we’d have, what kind of dress I’d be wearing (i totally ended up going the other direction but he still loved it haha).  I guess men can be dreamers too! πŸ™‚

Post # 4
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1281 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@BoxerLady:  Fiance wanted nothing to do with it…especially in the early days.  However, if I didn’t “run things past him” he would get upset, so it was really a fine line to walk!  It didn’t bother me at all.

 

When it started to hit a month away, he started getting excited and more involved, but I think he’s just the kind of guy who doesn’t get excited or interested in things that are far away.  

 

Post # 5
Member
1281 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@pengoala:  Yes.  FI liked to be able to have that “veto power” as well!

Post # 6
Hostess
23620 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@rubybride718:  Yeah, Darling Husband is like that even to this day!  I think he just doesn’t want to be held accountable. πŸ˜›

Post # 8
Hostess
23620 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@BoxerLady:  Haha, since he seems to love planning and you seem to be so so about it, maybe that’s best. πŸ™‚ Sometimes it’s easier just to have one person be in charge!

Post # 9
Member
2565 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

It’s been mostly us doing everything together, but I am much more excitable and want it all done now now now and he’s a little slow to contemplate, etc.  Case in point, I was ready to book the first weddingmoon rundown that was given to us, he wanted to sleep on it.  We didn’t book that and found something else.  He wanted to sleep on that too, which frustrated the HECK out of me.  I was so upset, lol…  He’s glad we’re not going to be heavy on details (as am I!) and while I want to look at stuff every day he needs to find a day where he’s relaxed and can go through things without feeling rushed or stressed.  We definitely have different styles.

Post # 10
Member
9142 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

My Fiance has done a majority of the planning for us.  Thankfully pretty much all of his ideas are great and what I would have wanted anyway.  It’s my second wedding so I am pretty much letting him have everything his way but funny enough he is actually planning the wedding I really wanted the first time around.  I really wanted a beach wedding for my first wedding but we scrapped the plans because I was planning by myself and it just got too stressful so I booked a local restaurant instead and they took care of all of the details.  This time my lovely FH takes over any time I say I am stressed and need help planning out some detail for our wedding.

It really helps that he used to work at a country club so he has set up and attended dozens of weddings over the years.

Post # 11
Member
1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I have a groomzilla and I am glad it is him and not me. He wanted a big wedding and of course he is not here but I did find the venue and the wedding planner. He contacts the wedding planner and gives him a list of what needs to be done. I made it clear that I am not into weddings and I cant be bothered and he and the wedding planner are both excited about planning the wedding. I am responsible for some things but to be honest they are things that have to be done right now.

My Fiance wouldnt have any other way he loves to take charge and plan everything. I get to relax, not stress, and give my opinion. He does values my opinion so I do feel apart of the process.

Post # 12
Member
2738 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My husband is an art director, so he obviously had the skills and talent to plan our farm wedding! We had to rent everything and bring it to the family property. He did amazing!!! Friends said it looked like a movie set, which is what he does for work, hehe.

I did my share, like invitations, our wedding website, baked the wedding cupcakes, etc. I took care of keeping track of the budget. And I proposed to him! That’s something, right! lol

Here’s the tent at night:

Post # 13
Member
6360 posts
Bee Keeper

He is doing at least 50% of the footwork. He’s a very good groom πŸ™‚

That said, we’re both moving a bit slowly on it (the date on my profile is not our wedding date, it will be significantly earlier, but we haven’t set it yet).

Post # 14
Member
3258 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We’re doing 50/50, or I might actually be doing more.

Post # 15
Member
602 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@BoxerLady:  Mine is in full planning mode. He is really loving being able to plan everything. Fiance has magazines and pinterest open trying to figure out the theme of the wedding he wants while I study. I just love giving him full control, he even wants to chose my dress. 

Post # 16
Member
400 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

He found the reception venue (well, through his mother who found it through his aunt and uncle), and is the main point of contact for the venue, the band (which he picked out and booked), and the caterers (he’s in contact with several at the moment). We live in different states, and I said if we get married in the state he lives in, he has to do a lot of the work. He also contacted the church (well, several churches that are now narrowed down to the one we booked), but I’m supposed to be the one to contact the officiant, organist, etc. He’s also picked out the cake, so he says, but I may try to convince him to switch.

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