(Closed) Spin Off- Ring Price, Do you know exactly what yours cost? How did you find out?

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 32
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

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@MakingHerWait:  I have no idea what mine costs. We designed the setting together, but since there wasn’t a price tag on it, I have no idea. He picked the diamond on his own, and while I could go on a website and enter in similar stats, but it really doesn’t intrest me.

I have had people make comments about how much it probably cost, but to be honest, I like not knowing so I can easily deflect them.

Post # 33
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

We chose my ring together, after he’d done some preliminary work.  He was not uneducated about diamonds, and already had an idea of what he wanted in terms of the C’s.  I was given a choice of stones, and told to choose whatever semi-mount I wanted.  I know exactly how much it cost.  And I’m totally OK with that. 

As for sharing the cost with others – not gonna happen.  Being asked the cost of such a personal item (especially here in the south) is quite rude, and is a question that will go unanswered.

Post # 34
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Nope, I have no idea what my ring cost. 

Post # 35
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Bumble bee

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@MakingHerWait:  I know because I worked with the jeweler to source the stone and choose the setting myself. I didn’t have a real budget going in but armed with my preferences and my common sense, it worked out well.

My ring is on the larger side of my social circle of peers but average for my FI’s colleagues’ wives and for my family/family friends. No one’s ever seriously inquired about the cost and I wouldn’t share it because it’s personal. On the bee there’s a sense of anonymity and I don’t mind sharing specs/price because it could be helpful.

I don’t wish I didn’t know because it isn’t that serious. I love the fact that my Fiance let me be such a large part of my ring process and I love the ring, not the price tag ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 36
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@MakingHerWait:  I know because we picked out the setting together (had an heirloom stone from FI’s grandmother)! I think either way is absolutely fine.

Post # 37
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I don’t know exactly how much it costs, but a ballpark.  My husband and I had an agreement.  I put the down payment on our house, he bought the ring.  I used that figure as an approximate budget when picking out a ring.  We had it custom made and he made all the arrangements.  Side note: He was MUCH happier with me picking out a ring knowing his budget.  He wanted to get me exactly what I wanted.  Such a nice guy ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 38
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I know how much mine cost because we picked our rings together, but if Fiance had picked it by himself and gave it to me, I wouldn’t expect him to have to tell me. 

Post # 39
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

I know exactly how much mine cost because I picked it out. Fiance and I went together to buy it too.

Post # 40
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@MakingHerWait:  No, there’s no reason to tell her.  I only know what my ring cost because I had to submit the bill of sale paperwork from the jeweler to my insurance company so I could get it covered under my homeowner’s insurance.

I kind of wish I didn’t know how much he spent…it makes me feel guilty!  I would never have spent this much on a ring for me…LOL.  It’s beautiful, though.  He did a good job.  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 41
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I only know because I was involved at every step, but even if he surprised me with a ring, I would want to know so I can make sure he got a good deal ๐Ÿ˜‰ I don’t see why the price of the ring should remain a secret if the woman is curious, but if your finances are completely separate, I can understand wanting to maintain that separation.

In real life, I NEVER discuss the specs of my ring, let alone the price. I have only told one person that the setting is Tacori, and that’s because she asked if it was a custom piece. Otherwise, these details really are no one’s business than mine, and my circle tends to respect that.

Post # 42
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Buzzing bee

He gave me a budget, I picked the setting and made sure he liked it (we’re going to look at similar ones before ordering the setting just to make sure). He wanted a diamond for the center stone but as that would put us above budget (actually twice the budget), I finally managed to convince him to go moissanite. The setting is about $1850, center stone around $500. My budget was $3000. 

Post # 43
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@MakingHerWait:  i asked him if he went into debt to pay for my ring and he thankfully said no, then asked if i wanted to know how much.  i said yes, but really wasn’t sure if i wanted to know the answer.  he showed me the appraisal first, which i gawked at because the $ was much higher than i thought he would spend, then he showed me the receipt and i felt much better.  i actually really felt proud of him because he got such a good deal on it! 

Post # 44
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

I chose it, so yes, I know how much it costs.

I don’t think it’s necessarily rude to know how much a gift costs. As you say, if she knew the specs, she could get a pretty good idea anyway. Unless you’re the one who is also paying the ring insurance then I guess there’s not really any reason to tell her, though.

 

Post # 45
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Bumble bee

I told SO early on (when he asked) that he should propose without a ring because I want to pick my own.  He knows I can work with a budget and won’t want him to spend more than he’s comfortable spending.

Post # 46
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@MakingHerWait:  I know for a few reasons

1. I picked it

2. He told me

3. I manage the filing in the house so I have the appraisal etc

4. I manage the insurance and it had to be added to our home insurance policy so I had to know

It’s not that hard to figure out either way.  If she knows where it came from, she can find out the price.

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