codysgirl16: I see, it’s interesting framed in that way. That’s a different way to look at it, so I appreciate you posting that.
I got from your posts that you aren’t big into it but I guess I didn’t quite get that you have an actual personal issue with it. Could just be that I missed it, apologies if so.
I do think it’s different if the host has a specific issue with it like religion, alcoholic family members or sever problem drinkers in the bunch, had lost a loved one to a drunk driver, the list goes on. But barring something like that, many people have personal issues things but when they KNOW the people they love would enjoy it and it’s not likely to cause problems (like the examples I listed above) I guess I just don’t understand why you’d cut it out.
In the example I gave above about the keg wedding, that bride was actually (secretly) 3 months pregnant so she couldn’t even partake. I dislike, non ABHOR a type of seafood. Like the smell makes me gag and anything that looks the same way on the plate as it did when it was in the ocean….forget about it. All I can think about are all the ocean toxins coursing through the flesh of whatever it is…. I digress. But my family and friends and husband love it, so jumbo crab cake first course it was.
I DO think it can be different and still fun, and again, the people that love you will be there and support the shit out of your new union! It’s just that again, you asked if people would leave early and it’s just a known fact that some probably will so that’s why you got a lot of the comments you did.
As for it being more fun, I think as others have stated this is a wedding, not a work conference, baby shower, weekday dinner etc. Usually a wedding in involves largeish groups when many don’t know eachother, time spent captive listening to speeches about people you may or may not know well, and just lots of social interaction and potentially dancing. These sorts of things are more fun for most people when their brain receptors allow for more relaxation and less inhibition to flow through it (which is what alcohol does), therefore making events like this more enjoyable.
In a way it does kind of come down to biology….like, will I NEED a nice potent black tea to help me wake up and focus for work tomorrow morning? No, but it will make it much easier and probably make for a more enjoyable morning. Similarly, I feel like an employer who provides it to me in the break room is a little more considerate than one who does not, regardless his feelings on caffeine. I had one boss who literally considered it poison yet she knew most of the employees wanted coffee or tea in the morning, so she regularly had like 20 types for us to choose from.