- 7 years ago
This post is sort of a spin off from that horrendous letter posted by AmuseMeMusically (she received an “invitation” where the couple is asking “guests” who aren’t coming to fund their wedding in Maui).
Lots of people seem to still be totally against the notion of honeymoon registries. I keep saying they are fine and I did one, but i would like to explain why.
When i first found out about the idea of one, it was through my travel agent/wedding planner. And no, she didn’t have me register with HER, she just referred to me http://www.honeymoonwishes.com. She made it sound fantastic of course by explaining i can register for these honeymoon ‘experiences’, but in the end i do what i want as what really happens is that i get the cash deposited into my bank account. I admit, i was on board with this idea at first.
And so when i first set it up, i registered for just about everything they offered from multiple excursions to massages to spa treatments to romantic dinners and breakfasts. everything.
Then i revisited it as i begun to feel more and more weird about the whole thing. Because i thought, what if people buy me like 3 activities and I don’t do them all? It felt deceitful to me. I had also heard its nice to put a picture of the activity you did in with the thank you card and i liked that idea. But how could I do that if I don’t do the activity?
So several times, i kept rearranging and changing and editing my Honeymoon registry. In the end, i had VERY few items on there. I decided that whatever people bought me on there we were going to do for real! It was the only way I felt right about it.
So, I picked TWO excursions I really wanted to do and decided that IF anyone bought them for us, I would do them (if no one, we might have splurged one, but probably not both). My other items consisted of a private dinner on the beach and a few spa things I really wanted like pedicure and couples massage.
And honestly it worked out GREAT because only a few people did use the registry. Two guest bought us the Dunns River Falls excusion which we really wanted to do and so did and two other guests bought us the private dinner on the beach! So i booked both activities. The dinner was our fave as that is something we NEVER would have done if not a gift.
Most importantly, I did not feel at all like I deceived my guests or in any asked them to fund our destination wedding. But we simply could not do a regular registry since we were moving soon to a smaller place and needed to get rid of stuff, not acquire more things!
Anyway, i just felt like posting my take on Honeymoon registies and i think if everyone did them like this OR if they were set up through the resorts themselves where the guests actually purchased activities and what not, and no cash was ever passed through the couple, then i would hope that no one would have a problem with them!
I just felt like sharing my take and experience with this. comment or criticize as you wish 🙂