(Closed) SPIN-OFF TOPIC – Are You Ok with Lap Dances ?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Are You OK with your BF - SO - Fiance - Husband getting a Lap Dance from a Stripper etc ?
    NO : (441 votes)
    76 %
    YES - Tell me WHY... : (139 votes)
    24 %
  • Post # 3
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    531 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I am not okay with it in general, BUT if it happens at his bachelor party (if he ends up having one) its whatever I just dont want to know or hear about it. 

    Post # 4
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    901 posts
    Busy bee

    Nope, I am not okay with it. And it’s often not merely until the guy gets an erection but through completion if you get my drift.

    Post # 5
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    351 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    Not okay with it at all, gross…My guy knows how I feel about it and totally respects my point of view. So instead of wasting money one some random chick giving him a lap dance (cringe at even typing it), he gets to spend it on me! (lol j/k…kinda)

    Post # 6
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    2105 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’m okay with it.  I don’t know what you want me to say for WHY, though.  It just doesn’t bother me.  *shrug*  

    Post # 8
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    2105 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @This Time Round:  I’m okay with them in general.  It’s not like he gets a lap dance every night or something excessive, it’s just once in a great while with his friends or sometimes he and I go together.  

    Post # 9
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    701 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    It is NOT ok. I would never marry a guy that thinks getting a lap dance is OK. To me it is crossing the line and it is cheating.

    If I got a lap dance my husband would be fuming. He wouldn’t do anything that he would not want me to do.

    Post # 10
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Lap dance don’t bother me.  I’ve even bought one for Darling Husband before!  I guess to me there is a huge difference between a naked woman dancing for him and getting favors from an escort or prostitute (who strip on the side) in a back room.

    @MadameTussaud:  Agreed.  It simply doesn’t bother me.  DH doesn’t want the stripper, the stripper doesn’t care about him, and he happily comes home to me at the end of the night (or with me if I was already at the strip club with him!)

    Post # 11
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I can deal with my guy going to a strip club for his Bachelor Party (if he chooses, it’s not really his style) and watching, but no one can touch him. He wouldn’t let another woman touch him anyway, and he has a really great group of friends that wouldn’t let him get into those types of situations.

    He’s more the type to go play paintball, have some beers, eat some BBQ and go to a bar with some live music than go to strip club. When he was younger, he did frequent strip clubs, but when he matured, it lost appeal to him. He hasn’t been in a long time, well before we met. I trust him to take my feelings and our relationship into consideration when making decisions.

    Post # 12
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    6015 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I voted I don’t have a problem with it, because I don’t really.  He didn’t even go to a strip club for his bachelor party, they intended too but they all got hammered at our house playing Rock Band and no one could drive.  He is the last of his friends to get re-married, he’s been all over the world, married and divorced before, so there isn’t much he’s wanted to do that didn’t get done.  I think his friends are all loving and responsible family men with children, or TTC that are all very happy in their marriages.  I trust them all, and know it wouldn’t get out of hand. 

    Post # 13
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    393 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I thought I was okay with a stripper in a bar (my definition: topless girl dancing on stage, with lap dance, no groping from FI). Hes had lap dances before, whatever thats the past.

    However, Fiance recently went to a bachelor party at the Best Mans house and the “stripper” brought some toys and was pretty much doing herself. I was shocked when Fiance told me. He said he was outside most of the time. He also told me the stripper was pretty gnarly (maybe to make me not so worried).

    So after that incident and definitely after reading the other post, I am definitely telling Fiance, “NO STRIPPERS EVER”! Unless he wants some guy dangling his goods in front of me (which I think is SUPER gross) or wanting a bunch of guys looking at me naked…. NO WAY.

    That probably means I’ll have to do my own “dances” for him 🙂

    Post # 14
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    Lap dances don’t phase me. In my book strip clubs and lap dances are right in there with porn, it’s not a big deal. I don’t have a problem with sex work in any capacity and I don’t respect a woman more or less for just doing her job especially since a lap dance has to be asked for/agreed to. I’ve been to a strip club and I know that dancers will come off the stage and solicit people in the crowd, I’ve even had one be very persistent and  grind in my lap a little in an attempt to to get me to agree to one but I still had the option of saying yes or no. Assuming the club is on the up and up then a lap dance is just a fantasy, just a slightly more tangible one and despite what all the “ex-strippers” who come on to the Bee to tell us “what really goes on in a strip club” say, I don’t believe that strippers are all “man-stealing whores” who derive pleasure in sleeping with patrons wether for fun or for sport.

    Post # 15
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    Nope. 

    Post # 16
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    883 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Hell No.

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