(Closed) SPIN-OFF TOPIC – Are You Ok with Lap Dances ?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Are You OK with your BF - SO - Fiance - Husband getting a Lap Dance from a Stripper etc ?

    NO

    YES - Tell me WHY...

  • Post # 62
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

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    @autumnmountainbride:  Yes, we can agree on that. Everything everyone has said in these posts have been a matter of personal opinion, even if the opinion may have been phrased in the format of “fact.” That’s the point of this thread — everyone throwing out their perspective on the issue.

    Post # 63
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I would feel like I betrayed my husbands trust if I went out and invited some half naked man to shimmy on me and allowed myself to be sexually entertained by other men, so of course I would feel betrayed if he did it. I trust my husband with my life, but I will always feel its disrespectful to invite sexual thoughts or fantasies about other people, especially real people who are right in front of you and touching you. This is not an issue as my husband feels the same way and has no interest in strip clubs, and it wouldnt be an issue for a lot of couples and I dont expect everyone to feel this way, but to us its a matter of respect.

    Post # 64
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

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    @Nona99:  Haha I really don’t know how to explain it… I just find it fun and I appreciate the human body, I guess that’s all I can say. Most male strippers have great muscle tone. 

    Post # 65
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

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    @FutureMrsLAL:  I guess my point is that by framing our opinions as facts, we create further division and dissent. I feel that there are more respectful ways to present our opinions than throwing out blanket statements that may leave others feeling that they need to defend themselves. 

    Post # 66
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    Blushing bee

    I said yes because I feel that it would most likely not be his idea anyway. His friends love and respect me enough to be considerate with the bachelor party. I trust my fiance and although I would never WANT him to get a lap dance, if he is honest with me, I could deal with it.

    Post # 67
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013 - Temecula, California

    I don’t mind it at all. Ive had one heck we even let a stripper spend the night over at the house once . She had driven two hours away and she didn’t get off until 2 that morning so she stayed on our couch. She was super nice and she bought us breakfast and now we have a place to stay down at Venice beach

    Post # 68
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2018

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    @autumnmountainbride:  I suppose my Looney Tunes state of mind is just always waiting for something completely silly to happen, toned or not you have to admit the scenario is rife with peril for all parties involved!

    Post # 69
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    In general, no, but I wouldn’t have picked a fight over it if DH had gone to a strip club for his bachelor party. He was completely uninterested in going to a strip club though; he’d been once before for a friend’s bachelor party and it wasn’t for him. … so I didn’t have to worry about it 🙂

    Ex-husband got one at his bachelor party though. It didn’t bother me because it was a one-time thing and it was his bachelor party. I had a male stripper (though no lap dance), so I wasn’t about to make a big deal about it.

    Post # 71
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

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    @Nona99:  Haha that is definitely true… and I’d probably have some limits about how close I’d let him get to me. 

    Post # 72
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2024

    @This Time Round:  Ok, so I have a question & maybe you can post it because I feel like it may not be seen by everyone commenting on this post.

    You posed the question as to wether or not stippers & the like are cheating and many women are saying yes. For any woman to undress and dance in front of my SO and for him to be turned on by any other woman would not fly in my book.

    My question is, what if you take your guy to a romantic movie and there is an explicit sex scene that turns him on, is it the same thing?

    What if a woman walks provacatively dressed, or maybe even dressed the same way the female partner in this situation would, maybe even resembles her or at least has some of the assests that he may find attractive in most women, do you feel the same way?

    Please explain to me what the difference in your answer to the stripper situation and this one.

    Post # 73
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I’m not okay with it at all. Never have been and never will be. Just seeing the way the guys look at those girls seriously grosses me out. The thought of my guy getting aroused by someone other than me is unacceptable in my book.

    Post # 76
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    Bumble bee

    Strippers don’t bother me, lap dances dont bother me, porn doesn’t bother me. There is no answer to why, it’s just not a big deal to me. 

    I completely agree with PP that said they’re over sex workers being villified. I know strippers and porn stars, they don’t want to come in between you and your man, they want to come in between whoever is in the club/at the party/viewing videos and their wallet. It’s just a job. 

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