Post # 1
I saw one for those planning for their weddings, and I was curious about those who are not engaged yet. Do you talk to anyone outside the Bee about waiting for an engagement?
Personally, I have no one in real life I can actually talk about waiting to. It feels awkward to talk to my mom about it, and usually I get all flustered and just stop talking or change the subject, lol. Both of my roommates are girls, but the last time I tried I got the ‘at least you have a boyfriend’ spiel and I have just shut it up ever since.
I almost feel like I talk too much here! I just can’t hold it inside, you guys, I just have to talk about it or my head might pop off, lol.
Post # 3
Hm, not really. I used to, but now I just let my frustrations out here. Problem is, our lack of engagment is hot topic conversation and it’s pretty clear by my reaction how I feel.
Post # 4
I have one person who knows about ALL of the crazy waiting I do.. wedding websites, venue websites, decor, themes… etc. etc. the best part is she is as obsessed as me!
She is my cousin, and she is already married but she is super excited for when I finally get a ring so that her and I can put out pre-planning to good use, we usually spend a good part of our day emailing each other dress, flower and cake pics 🙂 🙂
Post # 5
@Brickette: I have someone who cares too! My best friend has probably heard me gush about the same times hundreds of times but she acts interested every single time. She is not quite at the “waiting” stage in her relationship but she is excited for us because she was there when our relationship began to blossom (mainly because of our connection with her). She’s the perfect middle man and relays all the useful ring details to SO. Every time I want to start with the waiting talk she listens eagerly and tells me she will jot ideas down for when its official. I am lucky to even have ONE person. Everyone else gets sick of me I know it lol
Post # 6
I talk to my mom about it now, but only because we’re going to book things before we get formally engaged and he told me to start working it out now. Before we decided to go ahead and set a rough date for the wedding and the engagement, I JUST let my crazy out on here.
I’m not telling any of my friends, even though we’re about to start looking at venues, because I’m enjoying the time to ourselves just to think and plan and not answer questions.
Thank heavens for the bee.
Post # 7
I also talk to my mom or my best friend. but that’s about it. no one else. I don’t talk to people about my personal life too often.
Post # 8
I talk mainly to one of my best friends who’s currently engaged. & sometimes I mention it to my other friend who is also engaged (but he’s a guy). I don’t really mention it to my mom because she tells me that it’ll happen and to keep my mouth shut and not pressure SO.
Post # 9
I don’t go in depth with my waiting things but I do talk to some of the girls at my work about it. They don’t seem to mind they get kind of excited about it
Post # 10
I’ve got several friends at work who are also going crazy waiting, so we can tell each other about it endlessly and not drive each other crazy. My closest friends are either married (don’t want to hear about it), single (definitely don’t want to hear about it) or have been dating longer than me and SO, but they aren’t close to getting engaged (DEFINITELY don’t want to hear about it).
Post # 11
I talk to my best friend about it – she would be the first person I tell when I get engaged!
Post # 12
I talk mostly to my younger sister… she has it all planned out in her mind… Its nice to have someone who is almost as excited as me!
Post # 13
I used to talk to my girl friends about it but since they all got engaged and married I feel a bit of a loser doing so now. Instead I tell them I’m concentrating on my job or home and not talking to SO about it but waiting for him to do it in his own ‘sweet’ time. Obviously I can’t actually do that so now I’m taking out all of my frustrations on the bee! Maybe a bit too much but it’s addictive!!!
Post # 14
@misskittenn: Aahhgh, I sympathize. I have no one I personally know who can relate at ALL. I can’t talk to my mother about it– I did once (despite the fact she doesn’t like my SO) and basically got “if he’s worried about finances and won’t get engaged because of that, he doesn’t love you enough” because she thinks love=marriage no matter the financial circumstances, if you really want to get married. . . plus she doesn’t even think marriage is necessary! I can’t talk to HIS mother because if I did, she’d start saying things to my SO, and that would certainly delay things– he is older, and generally very mature as he should be at age 41, but when his mother nags him about personal things he’ll go and do the opposite of what she wants him to do! And my best friend is recently out of a long-term relationship that didn’t work, and is just beginning to date someone else. . . and my grad school friends are either in new relationships and freaked out by marriage talk, or recently out of relationships they thought would become marriages but recently imploded dramatically! The only person I can talk to about it, really, is a recently-married friend who had a couple of relationships that were almost engagements, but they were never right, and the man she married completely surprised her when he proposed.
So I yammer on a LOT on here. Sometimes I even post pointless crap and it gets ignored. . . but I have to get the crazy out SOMEWHERE.
Post # 15
I don’t really have anyone. I have a couple of friends that occasionally ask if SO and I have talked about it, but that’s about it. I went ring shopping just for fun with a girlfriend of mine, but even though I was really curious to look at different styles of rings to figure out what I like, she just kind of made a joke out of the whole thing. I have another friend who lives out of the country and has been with her SO longer than I have with mine. She seems to understand but we don’t really talk about it =/
I’ve also told both of those people about The Bee and they’ve given me strange looks like I’m crazy or that I’m deeper in the rabbit hole than I led on lol When I told them about the site it was so they could find comfort in it like I have because I thought we were in the same place together, but either they try to hide their “waiting crazy” or they just don’t get it (or at least not yet).
Post # 16
@misskittenn: The reason I signed up for this website is because I have no one to talk to and I wanted to avoid talking to my SO about it. He is normally really good when it comes to the topic but I know he is about sick of it. I also tried talking to my mom about it but she is single and wants to be engaged as well so I feel bad complaining about it to her bc she doesn’t even have a SO 🙁
so yeah I pretty much get it all out here. No point of talking to anyone else cause chances are they either don’t care or they don’t understand.