Post # 1
I’m definitely not trying to offend anyone who feels like this, amd I’m honestly curious about why some women hate when their SOs watch football, basketball, baseball, soccer, etc.
Is it the duration of the games? The back to back games? I don’t understand why it’s a problem when men (or women) want to watch sports all day. FH loves football, and we both love basketball (that’s how we met). I don’t have an issue with him watching games because that give me my “me time” when I can go out with friends, give myself a mani/pedi, read in peace, surf the net, etc. A lot of times I just lay on the couch with FH during the game and ask random questions about what’s going on. Now that I know a lot more about football, I can watch it and not be bored to death. I usually don’t mind watching it because we either get pizza and drinks, or I’ll cook up some good finger-foods.
I look at it this way: sports are hobbies. I have my shows and hobbies and FH has his. I know he hates watching Gossip Girl with me, so he’ll go and play video games while it’s on.
I guess I just don’t see why it’s an issue in some relationships. Anyone want to explain it to me?
Post # 3
Honestly, NO CLUE! I love watching games with hubby 🙂 I’m glad that he has something he is so passionate about, and I’ve really gotten into it as well! Tons of fun!
Post # 4
I am a HUGE college football fan (Go Wildcats! Haha.) but my Fiance doesn’t really get it, he never went to college and always liked NFL better. He likes to watch my games with me because he gets to spend time with me and I watch NFL games with him. I don’t mind at all. I’m way more into sports than he is, anyway, so I guess we are a weird couple. 😛
Post # 5
@MrsMaine: Me too! Especially now that I understand what’s going on..it’s not so bad. I’m super passionate about basketball, but now I can watch football and be entertained. I just don’t see what the big deal is.
Post # 6
I will watch Patriots games, but the Fiance watches every sport, every team. Professional and college level. I don’t mind though. That is why we have 2 TV’s 🙂
Post # 7
1. The announcers are generally annoying to listen to and hear in the background. It’s very distracting when I’m trying to do work or relax (we have a small apartment, so we are both in the main room).
2. It means I can’t watch something I would like to watch, nor can we can watch something we both like together, or do something together. I have 1-2 shows I like to watch that he doesn’t, so I try to watch them when he’s not around. It’s more difficult for him because games are live.
3. He is terrible about prioritizing his favorite games. So he’ll have games on for each night of the week, at the end of the run when I’m tired of the tv on that much, particularly with sports, claiming, but this game is my team! Why watch all of the others then? If it was one 3 hour game a week, that’s fine, I understand. But having something on tv for several hours almost every night and a good chunk of the weekend that I don’t enjoy watching is not reasonable. When we first started dating, he watched rarely if at all.
4. He often watches instead of helping me with household chores (dinner, dishes, cleaning, etc.). He does not “make up” for this later, so I end up doing 95% of the household chores.
Post # 8
I don’t hate when he watches, per se.
I do hate nights like last night, he was watching a game and didn’t come to bed until 12:30 a.m. and I (well, both of us actually) had to work the next day. I can’t sleep when he’s still up and about because of our dogs. If I’m in the bedroom, the dogs want in and will scratch and cry at the door until I let them in; but once they’re in there, they bark at every little noise. So when Darling Husband yells at the TV, the dogs bark. No sleep for me.
And I also hate when he watches games the E N T I R E day, so doesn’t help with anything around the house and I’m stuck with all the cooking, cleaning, running errands, etc. Luckily he doesn’t do that too often.
Post # 9
I don’t mind, but if I had to guess, it would be because games take up a HUGE chunk of time and men can’t like, watch them and do stuff at the same time. No guy can pay attention to his game and also vacuum or whatever. So they’re basically useless for that amount of time. And if you’re the type who likes to get out and do stuff on the weekends, I guess it would annoy you to basically be watching tv for like 8 hours straight if a couple games are on.
Post # 10
Okay, I can definitely understand if it’s impairing sleep or if he doesn’t get household chores done. Thankfully, I don’t have that problem. Since FH works nights and is home during the day, he just does his chores then. On weekends, he’ll usually do them in the morning before the games come on.
Post # 11
@kay01: OT but my dad used to watch Redskins with the TV sound off, and Sonny & Sam (local radio broadcast) on. He hates TV sports commenters that much!
Post # 12
This was something I never understood!!! Fiance is a golf freak. If he’s not golfing, he researching golf course architecture online or watching golf on tv. And I don’t care!!! We still spend lots of quality time together, but if golf is his biggest obbsession, I suppose I don’t have much to worry about!
Post # 13
I think some woman have partners who obsess, waste money, and spend more time talking and thinking, planning about sports than their relationship with their SO or family members.
Its about a balance and compromise
Personally I don’t have a partner who is over board so it is fine.
Post # 14
I don’t mind that Fiance watches games, I just don’t like how often it’s taking up screen time on the television. That means not only am I not watching what I want to watch, he’s also zoned out and not paying any attention to me. Both of which are fine, but can be overdone.
I also get irritated when I would rather go out and do something and he wants to stay in because there’s a game on. For example we were out shopping the other day and we had to hurry home because the tennis match was about to start. And if a game is on and I’m in the same room doing homework or something else I get annoyed because he will always tell me “I have to see” this replay, which I could not care less about.
Post # 15
@misssydneyj – I agree and have wondered the same thing. Maybe because I grew up with brothers, I don’t have a frame of reference, but we have more than one TV in our house, so if he’s watching something I don’t want to watch, I can simply go into another room…
One of my friends who complains says it’s because her husband is watching ALL the games and not just his favorite team’s game…
Post # 16
@Ryansgirl: We’re in the same boat! FH grew up with all things sports so that’s his obsession. I don’t mind it because we do things that I like to do and he still gets stuff done so I don’t feel like sports is a huge deal. I guess it would be a big deal if it was interfering with stuff that needed to get done.
@ohheavenlyday: That’s understable, but why do a lot of women feel like they need to watch it with him? lol My feeling is go outside and take a walk, call your friends, go to the library, go shopping, or just do something that you’ve been meaning to do. (Not you specifically, just in general) I know I hate when my shows are on and FH is in my face about something or is next to me complaining the whole time. I guess that’s why we got a big apartment so that we can have our own space, but I know not everyone has that.