(Closed) Spin-off: Why do some women hate when their SOs watch sports?

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 17
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

This is easy… it’s like when men are addicted to video games. They are addicted, they sit there like zombies, with little or no disregard for anything other than the tube (TV) for the entire game. Often times the men explicity say that they are not to be talked to or distrubed while the game is on.

While I “get it” it doesn’t make it OK to be a complete douche for the duration of the game.

I do know that not “all” men do this while watching games… but I also know that once something has cativiated their attention it feels as though everything (and everyone ie the partner) takes a backseat and is neglected.

Post # 20
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Thankfully Fiance hates sports as much as I do but I did have to suffer through an entire hockey game a few months ago (he’s making a fantasy team app for the iPad so it was “research”). Honestly, I hated every minute of it. When you don’t understand what’s happening and don’t find any joy in watching it, it’s kind of hard to not loath it, ya know? 

My real nemesis is video games. Oh, how I hate thee! 

Post # 21
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Yeah – I’ve never understood this either.  Granted, both of us love sports.  But if he wants to watch I game I don’t care about or he wants to play his video games or whatever – I go do something I want to do.  Sometimes its a walk, sometimes shopping, sometimes reading, whatever.

It think it is important for a couple to have interests that differ from each other and spend individual time on those interests.  If a guy’s interest is sports, he should be able to watch and cheer in peace, IMO.

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I watch the hockey games and the Olympics and all that jazz, and enjoy it very much, but I don’t understand people who memorize players’ stats and game scores and otherwise devote copious amounts of time and energy to something they don’t even participate in. I could never spend an entire day watching sports, the monotony would drive me up the wall.

It becomes a problem when someone puts sports ahead of a healthy home life, social engagements, and even major life events priority-wise. I can’t remember which wedding show it was, but at one point the bride realized her husband and the groomsmen were MIA from the reception. She found them watching the football game in the next room. Seriously? 1. If football is that important to you, why’d you agree to have your wedding on a game day? 2. Your bride is always going to remember that you ignored her on your wedding day in favor of watching a bunch of bulked-up, sweaty guys running and tossing a ball around. Good going, buddy.

 

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I just don’t like how long it seems to take. This past Sunday he started watching after church. Then when I thought we’d do something together it was time for Sunday night football. Sheesh. I think it will be fine eventually but I just moved here so I don’t have many friends/hobbies/anything yet. I like some sports I just don’t care about football at all. As long as there is a balance then I think it’s fine. Like he gets to monopolize the tv sometimes and I get a turn another time or something like that. 🙂

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

For us, it’s only a problem when sports seasons overlap and there’s ALWAYS a game he has to watch or on weeks that the Pats play on a night other than Sunday, because then he watches games all day Sunday AND whenever they’re playing.  I’m good with the others, but have a very low tolerance for football. 🙂  Pats games only please.  So when I’ve had enough, I tell him and he goes into the other room to watch the rest.

I have to say though, it’s not just watching the games, my hubby loves fantasy sports too, so he spends hours online checking stats.  Drives. Me. Crazy.  Sometimes it would be nice to just have some uninterrupted time alone with him. 🙂

Post # 25
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

I’m a total sports nut (baseball and football), so my husband and I watch all the games together! It is hard to imagine what it would be like for me if I didn’t like sports, but I imagine I would simply watch tv in the other room or read books, play on the computer. I don’t think it would bother me.

Post # 26
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I dont mind it because I kind of get some “me” time. I will watch TV in the bedroom, something he doesn’t like watching like Bridezillas or Teen Mom. I will go to the gym, make dinner and every now and then I will lay on the couch and watch it for a bit with him. I dont mind it at all. I know its something he absoutely loves. I try to be supportive. I recently bought him a Tom Brady Jersey, because he is a HUGE Pats fan!

Post # 27
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@misssydneyj: I don’t know either. Except I’m the one that watches sports lol. Mostly just football. Usually, when I do that, he’ll tinker with his engineering stuff and listen to podcasts. Whenever he wants to play video games all day (therefore, preventing me from playing lol) I’ll either clean up around the house, cook, or go window shopping. Or artwork, I have to get back in the habit of sketching everyday.

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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@kay01: YES! I am so with you on every point!

Post # 30
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

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@misssydneyj: Waiting until a game isn’t on to go shopping (or whatever else we need or want to do together) isn’t a problem if it’s a situation where there’s a certain team they have to watch.  I know for example that Fiance will be occupied during every UofL football game, and that’s fine.  That’s about 3-4 hours a week, no biggie.  The problem is when there are multiple sports and multiple teams that are important enough to opt out of other activities. 

Thankfully DVR has helped out tremendously and he will usually fast foward through a soccer game after he gets home from work and just watch the goals, haha. 

Post # 31
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Agh because I find most sports annoying and boring and DH gets MAD and then gets pissy when the team he likes loses.  Then he is pissy for the rest of the day/night.  He doesn’t really watch a whole lot of sports now that he is with me though.

I know for sure when he watches golf on the TV I usually end up falling asleep or going shopping because to me it soooo slow and boring.

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