(Closed) Spin-off – Would you care if your SO had been with another man?

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: Would you care if your SO had been with another man before being with you?
    No, it doesn't matter to me. : (150 votes)
    29 %
    Yes, I'd prefer to be with a man who has only been with women. : (368 votes)
    71 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1471 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    Not in the slightest. I see it as no different as past sexual experience with a woman. If her were bisexual, it wouldn’t make a difference to me.

    Post # 4
    Member
    533 posts
    Busy bee

    No. He doesn’t care that I’ve been with another female either. 

    Post # 5
    Hostess
    7561 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    Yes, it would bother me. I see nothing wrong with someone being bi, I just wouldn’t want that in an ideal partner. I’ll readily admit that just is just ignorance on my part. I’ve never known a guy who was bisexual and ended up with a woman. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    942 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    It bothers me that my SO has been with other women! I accept his past relationships, but I don’t wana hear about it! Same goes if it were men & women. I’d still love him the same but I don’t need to talk about it

    Post # 7
    Member
    1578 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club

    I said yes it would bother me but only because I want to be my FI’s only ( and I am) sexual partner.

    Post # 8
    Member
    1038 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @redheadem:  He wouldn’t be my SO if that was the case. 

    Post # 9
    Member
    201 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I’m about as accepting of the LGBT community as they come but I wouldn’t marry someone who’s a member. I’m a straight woman who sought a straight man. Knowingly marrying someone who bats for both teams isn’t ideal for my relationship. Now, if my husband ever came out to be gay, I would be devastated from losing the man that I thought I knew but I would respect his decision to be the person that he was meant to be.

    Post # 10
    Member
    543 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Would I care? Yes. Would I still be with him? Yes, with the condition that he gets tested before we slept together ( I have the same condition for prior female partners) Anal sex, as far as I have been taught, is the riskiest form of sex; with the lack of natural lubrication and all of the mucus membranes, it is much easier to contract a STI/D, even with a condom.

    ETA: I would care not because he was bisexual, I would care because of the anal sex factor. Thats regardless of sex/gender. I don’t think I made that clear in my post

    Post # 11
    Member
    5011 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    To an extent, I would have preferred a bisexual partner but it was never going to be a deciding factor. Darling Husband is straight and that’s fine.

    Post # 12
    Member
    10714 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    No I wouldn’t care. I don’t see 1% of difference between someone being with a male or female before me because it was BEFORE me. 

    Post # 13
    Member
    97 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Yes it would bother me. I would prefer a man that has been with women. I can’t say why, that’s just my stance!

    Post # 14
    Member
    1750 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @redheadem:  That’s a deal breaker for me. I can not be with a man that has slept with another man or is attracted to men. No way. I am accepting and loving of members of the GLBT community but not in my bedroom.

    Post # 16
    Member
    3886 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I beleve very few people are 100% gay or 100% straight, and that most of us fall somewhere on the “in between” scale.

    I also think trying to suppress an attraction to the same gender is unnatural, and relatively recent in the history of mankind, I think our gender stereotypes are manufactured and artificial. I think it’s okay to appreciate beauty in the sane gender, and explore sexuality.

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