Post # 32
Yes, and there are certain event’s I prefer he NOT go to, like work functions where I know he’s going to feel uncomfortable and follow me around the whole time and not talk to anyone where I’d like to socialize and rub elbows.
Just because you are together doesn’t mean you have to be siamese twins.
Post # 33
Yea, it’s not a big deal. I’d hate to have to be so reliant on someone else in order for me to go to an event by myself and have a good time.
Post # 34
It depends on the event and the reason why we would be possibly separated. If it’s hosted by “my” side while he’s busy, no problemo on solo. If I’m faced with a ton of people I do not know or he wasn’t invited because host doesn’t like him, then no.
Post # 35
Fiance is a police officer, so I’ve been to many events/holidays without him. Ive learned to be okay with it. It sucks to enjoy things without him, but it’s for the better :).
Post # 36
I might go to a co-worker’s wedding in Turkey without him. A lot of their wedding associated events are gender divided so he would be left to his own devices most of the time anyway..
Post # 37
I go to stuff without Darling Husband regularly. However, weddings cost several hundred dollars just to be a guest at. So nope, I wouldn’t go to a wedding without my Darling Husband unless it was an extenuating circumstance (i.e, extreme destination of a BFF half the world away) and we couldn’t afford for us to both go.
Post # 38
It depends. I would go to the wedding in the other post, assuming it was near me, I knew other people and wouldn’t require me to spend more than 10ish hours away from him. After all, I spend time apart from him every day for work! However, if it was far away I wouldn’t travel without him, and if I didnt know other people I wouldn’t go because I am very introverted and strangers scare me.
Post # 39
First, love the use of “vexatious”!
Second, if it requires more than an hour of travel, I generally won’t go if Darling Husband isn’t invited. Exceptions for major milestone birthdays and bachelorette parties!
But I have no issue with having lunch with a Girlfriend without Darling Husband. How are we supposed to girl chat if he’s there, anyway?
But if I was invited to a wedding 2 or 3 or 10 hours away and Darling Husband wasn’t invited… I don’t think I would go!
Post # 40
@ClassicCorvette: I would prefer he go with me (makes things more fun) and he usually does a pretty good job about tagging along, but sometimes I know he will be bored or it is going to run pretty long and there wont be many people for him to talk with while I am running around, i will give him the option to stay home haha.
Post # 41
Thank you again for the replies, everyone! 🙂 I am starting to think the married couples I know IRL who are inseparable might be that way because of their younger age. It seems more of the older couples who are more confident and established are more independent.
Post # 42
@ClassicCorvette: I voted “other”. I attend most events solo, as my Darling Husband has a job that requires extensive travel. It seems like, without a doubt, he is rarely home to attend events with me. However, when it’s a case of getting an invite that should CLEARLY be to both of us, but was only issued to me (or him) – neither of us attend. I refuse to attend events where there is poor etiquette – to me, that just doesn’t deserve a gift.
Post # 43
Depends on the event, somethings I don’t want to go alone. I’m a lot more comfortable if Darling Husband is there. I tend to be more shy if I’m alone. Yes I would if I had to. I mean we aren’t connected at the hip or anything. I go to see friends without him but like more formal events or large group events.. I’d prolly just rather stay home then go alone.
Post # 44
@ClassicCorvette: i think the big difference in the other post is the husband wasn’t invited. Worse, it was a small wedding and at least one other husband was invited.
I’d go anywhere, even a wedding, without my husband. But I doubt I’d attend an event (other than work related or gender specific) if Darling Husband wasn’t invited; because he’s being excluded.
Post # 45
@ClassicCorvette: um why not!?!? I would feel really restricted if I didn’t ever go anywhere w/o my husband. We both believe in maintaining ourselves as individuals in addition to ourselves as a married couple.
Post # 46
Yes we both do things without the other one, we aren’t conjoined twins. We do things together but if I don’t want to see a certain movie, he and the guys go.